Aversion to Good-Looking People

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Stable relationships can only be built on character not on looks. Unfortunately all popular culture, as is expressed in advertising, movies, and common sense discourse is obsessively focused on the importance of looks and of their betterment by cosmetics and surgery. Equally centred on exposing sexy parts of the body (navel and under, hips, breasts) is fashion. Actresses very good at acting, like Julian Moore or Susan Sharandon, must yeld the scene to sex bombs like Scarlett Johansson.

I'm not sure how to respond. What I consider attractive others have laughed at or said was a plain looking person. But the young, plastic people that worry themselves silly over dressing a certain way, coloring their hair, wearing tons of makeup, being seen with the latest fashion accessory ie: they want to make sure everyone sees they have an Ipod or SUV. Those trendy people that have no individuality I do steer clear of because they are often the ones that like to attack the little peons like me. It's kind of the same as when I go hiking I always am on the look out for rattlesnakes and mountain lions. So what others call excluding or being snobbish I would call self preservation. I can't think of anyone that others would label as unattractive that has ever harrassed me. It's the pretty people that are mean. I suspect that is because they have little self esteem (and that's why they have to follow the latest fads). The people that feel insecure are always the ones that do the bullying.

I feel uncomfortable around certain people that are considered attractive and know it. I don't find them attractive at all. Unless they are kind people, then I stop noticing.

I'm a single male and do not like attractive women because they invariably have learned to manipulate other people using their good looks. And the homely people who see the good looking people tend to favor them more. I've heard it called the "halo effect". Most of us don't even realize the bias we have with attractive people.

I tend to wonder what, exactly, they want out of me, usually.
Beyond that, I find it distracting to talk to them if I have to look at their face but I can usually get over it after a bit and focus on the person behind the flesh.

My mom has always been attractive and trendy (always keeping up). Growing up all my classmates thought she was the real WonderWoman. She looked just like Linda Carter....tall and slim with those great cheekbones. I got a kick out of it during the 70's and 80's.

My mom was also a runway model in Atlanta. I on the other hand have been referred to as "plain" the older I got. Plain when compared to her stylish looks. I am very granola.

back to the point...my mom has always had a TERRIBLE time making friends at her jobs. Everyone thought that bc she was pretty/beautiful she was "above" them in some other way. She has always been alienated by female coworkers. Her looks have not always advanced her on the career ladder, but she always did get the jobs when interviewing based on jobs that met her education requirements.

It depends, I get suspicious of very uniformed attractiveness, especially if they act slyly, people with good looks can be lacking in other areas cos they have sailed by on their beauty, but theres no pigeonhole I suppose everyone is different, humour is the most attractive thing in the world I reckon.

I like being around both.
Being around good looking women is nice because it's a bit of a show off
Being arounf less good looking women is also nice because than im the good looking one LOL.

Nut in all seriousness i pay more attention to theyr personality,,,i really do dammit

I have absolutely no aversion to good looking people. There is no reason why good looking females will not be attracted to me, compared to plainer looking ones, and good looking females often are. So how can I have an aversion?