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30 Sep 2014, 12:11 pm

NicholasName wrote:
Ohhhhh boy, I sense a lot of eventual burnout from some of the people in this thread. I hope I'm wrong.

Refraining from frequently correcting people is definitely good (but not necessarily easy...), but you do NOT have to dumb down or act fake.

one does not have to fake "dumbness" in order to relinquish themselves from the potential jealousy of others appraisals. one just has to refrain from communication, and they will give up quickly. people have short attention spans. it is easy to ....yeah i guess i said it in another thread....



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30 Sep 2014, 5:09 pm

Usually it is not hard for me to refrain from doing this this because I am a quiet person. It is most difficult for me to hold back when somebody is incorrect on a topic I am interested in.

I do not like it when people correct me on a topic I have little interest in. Then their actions seemed condescending to me. So I guess the NT's have brainwashed me :lol:


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30 Sep 2014, 7:21 pm

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Whats wrong with appearing condescending.

You start acting submissive or humble, and in a week these same people will start saying you lack confidence and have no back bone.

You can never win with these sorts of people.

They always want you playing their game as a novice, as they age you will learn they like to keep moving the goal posts just to stay on top.

Granted if you truly don't respect the people around you, your gonna have serious trouble.

I treat people like tigers. I don't give a dam about their opinions or feelings. But at the end of the day anyone can rip your throat out, respect the vulnerability and power of all peoples.



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30 Sep 2014, 7:25 pm

Intentionally dumbing yourself down or hiding an attitude are both deceptive in principle, which makes them not feel right.