Addressing people by name

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Honestly I don't think most people call each other by name unless they're trying to get someone else's attention. For e.g., when I want to talk to someone at work, I'll say their name, but other than that it really isn't necessary to keep using their name within the conversation.

Actually anyway I cannot cannot cannot remember people's names the first 3 or 4 times I hear them if told directly. It's maddening--actually there are people I've known for almost 2 years now and I've just recently learned their names...anyway it's tough to call people by name if you can't remember. A general "Hey...you," is about my speed.

I do think that the using of other people's names in conversation is something that only happens in books and other scripted dialogue. In RL people just...talk.

That's good to know. Thanks

People have names?

I have a very hard time with this, too. Even if I do remember their names I find it difficult to make it come out right.

Same here

I suck at remembering names, so I don't use them much.

Same here, I've started a thread about it somewhere (might be a different forum!) in the past. I am improving though. I don't have a problem naming third persons in conversation but it's more directly addressing them, even "Mum" and "Dad". I never used to address them until after I moved out, to be honest.

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I always feel unsure of what to call people, I also have trouble recognizing people.

I have a very hard time remembering names and have to force myself to say someones name.

I have a problem remembering peoples’ names. When I first meet someone I usually don't hear their name somehow. Then I forget every time till some point where I might just grasp it. So I don't use their name. But also it seems a bit redundant to do it. Though recently I do it every now and then because I realize NT people need it make them feel welcome.

I hardly call people by their name (I sometimes forget it...), but when I do, I don't feel all that uncomfortable.

My main discomfort with 'names' is calling elder people, aunt/uncle ____(first name) but almost everybody else that I know does that. I've always called elder people ms./mr. ____(last name). I guess I'm sort of really polite on that matter.

I must plead guilty of public confounding autistic behaviour.

I avoid speaking or typing people's names, it feels awkward & creepy if I have to do so. I don't like to hear my name, though I can't explain why-I don't mind my name, so that's not it. Silly, squirmy, squeamish, that's how I feel about addressing people as proper names instead of vague pronouns. It's irrational, by it's my bizarre subjective personal preference. At least, when I use the quote button on the forum, I don't have to write out a name, it's done for me, which I appreciate.
I instantly forget the names of people I meet IRL because of how stressed & anxious I am in any social situtation. My feeling embarrassed about using people's names is a separate thing, though-I often dislike titles or names (as a concept in general, or the particular words) for persons, places, things, works of writng or art, logos & slogans for consumer products, etc. It's hard for words to seem like they mean anything anymore, because so much gets said (and which may be more or less genuine) by so many about everything-tough to sort through it all. I'm tangenting, sorry...
It's the opposite for people I learn about through the media, at a distance, over time, through repetition. I have a mental library of names of individuals that seemed interesting to me-certain actors, authors, musicians, artists, and so on. I don't mind talking about these people (and saying their names) because it feels safely impersonal & indirect to think about or notice these people. I'm not actually communicating with them, we're not sharing an environment-so I can feel comfortable enough to pay attention to these far-away (tv or magazine) people.

Wow. Yeah, it does.

Wow. Never thought about it until reading this thread, but by god, yes, I also have trouble with using someone's name. As somebody mentioned here, it just feels wrong, awkward. With people I know well, I use nicknames, like "Nicible" for Nici or "Lizard" for Liz (she's not fond of that ).
I call my husband "Larold," my brother "Ra," and so on...

My mother used to get upset with me when I was a kid whenever I used the term "you people" while addressing her and whomever else was in the room. She took it as an insult.

I don't think I have a problem with using other people's names, although it takes me ages to remember them, but having to tell someone my own name is excruciating. I hate the y sounds in Amy and I usually talk too quiet so have to say it at least twice.