what exactly makes people think you are weird ?

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Maladaptive daydreaming + awkward posture is what makes people think I'm weird. I look like I'm either "out of it" all the time, or when I'm focused on my internal monologue, my face goes dead blank and people think I'm a psychopath.

It's just that it's weird to look at.

I am happy that I don't think like most people as it seems to help protect me from the groupthink thing that NT people do. You know, where they all start acting stupid because a dominant person in the group is a moron. My different way of thinking has been commented on as long as I can remember. By the time I was teenager, I had developed a personally satisfying response to being called weird. If I could discern that it was an observation, I would simply say thank you. I dealt with it and tried to discern what made me so different from everyone else.
If they were being obviously malicious, I would respond that I would take it as a compliment and then reply that they were quite normal and that my statement was intended in the same way they meant. I have had to tell some of my daughters to do the same thing. But that just may be my weird rubbing off on them, because my baby girls actually think I'm cool.

NT's are difficult to take seriously sometimes, simply because they don't possess any ability to think for themselves. They feel threatened easily, generally by anyone who does not match the norm. We, as Aspies have to pretend to be like them, to survive, so we learn to look like them, as best we can. To paraphrase Temple Grandin, a society run by NT's would be noisy, sociable and nothing would ever get done. People think I'm weird because I do not talk to them, except when I have to. They find this threatening, because NT's seem to need to be acknowledged, constantly. They are very needy.

I went from lacking social skills to being relatively competent and notice things that people do that I used to do because I didn't know any better at the time. Not that there is anything really wrong with 'being weird'(we all have our quirks that make life interesting) but you can tell that the person doesn't really hang with a certain crowd because of their mannerisms and such.
I'll give you a practical example google "snoop dogg handshake fist bump" Snoop knows how to handle these situations. Many people don't and some might call them 'weird'

I honestly don't know, because I don't really interact with people enough to get their opinions on me.

I've had three* separate people comment on how I walk, which I guess can look odd. I never really thought about trying to walk "normally", I just try to walk with the most efficient gait. It's not like I'm silly-walking or anything.

In K-12, somehow I escaped bullying and criticism for the most part. I had the odd incident of course - interestingly most came from my "friends" in middle school, such as putting me in a headlock or teasing me. But they did this to each other too, so I guess they were trying to include me in their own weird way. I hated them for it though.

I've been told that I can look quite intimidating sometimes, but this is coming from the same people who also tell me how adorable I look. I think that duality unnerved the other kids - no one seemed to know quite what to expect from me.

I think that, in the adult world anyway, people have tolerance for a certain amount of weird, where as long as it's below the threshold they won't openly comment on it. This allows a lot of "weird" behaviors to persist into adulthood.

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* Three people is a lot for me when it comes to personal feedback.

My soon to be ex's best friend said that the synonym for weird is awesome. So we're all awesome. And our group of friends is what the rest of the school calls the weird kids. We all have our own problems. Some on the spectrum and other reasons that I don't know.

Oh, the special interests! I get so addicted, it becomes my entire life.

Worrying how weird I am to other people.

thanks a lot for your comments, i have an idea now about what makes people say that i am weird.
but i won't try to be normal, because i think i am normal in my own way even if it appears weird to others, i was just frustrated for not knowing what made them think that i am strange.
i am bad at acting anyway
i still would like to read more about your experience and about what you think about this