aspergers: a different way of seeing the world.

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Actually Steve, you say your finances are above the general average; so why indeed worry about AS, especially if you can't see what you're missing?!

NTs do enjoy their social skills though; which is just as well given the suicide rates. It's best not to dwell on the fact that we lack some of them; I'm sure I wouldn't have felt like I was already dead for so long if I'd only knuckled down with a career etc!

I don't think AS is something to be proud of, you should be proud of the things you do not what you are. It seems a bit stupid to me to say you're proud of something you have no control over and have had not affect on. This doesn't mean you should be ashamed i just think that people talk about 'pride' a lot without really thinking about what it means.

I also agree with Mitch8817 about the 'I wouldn't want to become NT because i would turn into a stupid, ignorant, competative slut/jock' attitude that soem people on this board seem to have. This is a really unfair and inaccurate NT stereotype, not all NT people are like this just like not all autistic people are like Rain man. I don't think any of us could really say how much a 'cure' could change us.

For clarification sake, I don't usually talk about my income, and don't say it to brag. I only said it here to dispell the belief that AS people are doomed to a life of poverty or whatever. I have spoken with at least 2 others here that make more than I do. I'm sure still others make at LEAST what I do, etc.... So I can't even claim to make the most here. One person I know here owns a company with many employees, and that person ALONE takes home several times what I do.

And I HAVE, unfortunately, raised my expenses to my income somewhat. Just my aorta problem means thousands of dollars out of my account to start, and an extra $2000+ in doctors bills and medication each year! I AM hoping I can get to where I could retire in 10 years or so, but we'll see. Still things can turn, so I am still not that comfortable.

In short, don't think that that makes me THAT comfortable. If I WAS that comfortable, I would go public with my identity and life situation and set a lot of scams, propaganda, etc... on their ear. There is SO much I wish I could simply say.

And I would like to marry someone that didn't have any idea that I made any real money, so it couldn't help my social life at all. My car, appearance, etc... Makes me look just middle class, but I didn't even own a suit that fit me since 1990 until early this year. I got it because my boss requested it for my interview.

BTW I was HEAVILY depressed until shortly before I registered here. My doctor perscribed cymbalta. I tried it for a few weeks, but have been off it for almost a year. I think the realization that I am not alone, the new interest in trying to DEFY the idea that the brain degrades, etc... and I am trying to see if I can actually get back to like when I was 5, and persuing my interests, has all but eradicated my depression.

That is interesting since the medication, loss of a pectoralis minor, and the realization that aspects of a lifelong dream will NEVER be realized, have given me a lot more to be depressed about.



Promethea,

You're right! I am not proud of what I am outside of what *I* have had a hand in. Some people use proud and happy interchangably, and speak of pride in an inherent context(race, culture, "sexual orientation", etc...)

Steve

EDIT: And I do apologise if I have come off a little harsh, as that was not my intention.[/quote]



its ok. you probabally mistaken me 4 an adult. thats fine, everyone does until they see me.
i understand.

Guilty as charged. I must learn to be less grumpy.

case closed. we all have different opinions ad we have to accept it.

That's the most sensible thing I've heard here. 13 going on 30 indeed

When I was ur age Kris, I had any number of opinions from 1 day to the next, so don't worry about it! One of yours is probably best not aired away from here tho