Do people with AS live happly ever after?

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I believe you can be. I'm not currently married or seeing anybody and, while I'm not actively seeking out opportunities, I still believe it could happen. I hang on to the example of Roger Bannister, who has been married for over 50 years to his wife, Moyra. Bannister had a difficult life growing up, but eventually triumphed.

I am very pessimistic about my future-I don't really care about girls and sex and s**t
you know its just to complicating for me
I just... I don't even know what I want anymore
my obsessions don't make me happy, just mad

Sorry, I tend to ramble

Condesed version: I don't know, but I still can dream.

After about 100 or so girls in my life i finily found the right one ! It was hard and rocky road filled with crap and heart ache and sadness in other words SUCKY! But after feeling i would be alone for the rest of my life i met the best girl who i have ever met (although when she met me , she wanted NOTHING to do with me) but after a while we fell in love got married and now we have a beautiful little 1 year old girl! So i know it my be rough at times but just remember there is ALWAYS someone out htere for you!

yeah but how many of us do you think would survive the heartaches threw like 100 girls
I'd give up after 10
seriously
I don't believe in true love
never ever have
never ever will
and I am not just saying that 'cause I am mad

No need to be pessimistic about it guys- though yeah, I see where you're coming from. I've been there- believe me.

Understand- love is different for everyone. Do I get a boner every second I think of my sweetheart, or desire to look at her picture every single minute of every day? No- but I think about her all the time and I know I love her. She's the most wonderful thing that's ever happened to me.

I'll say it again- AS people have about the emotional stigma of the Terminator, so when people tell you 'when you're a kid, you don't have the ability to experience the emotions and feelings that come from love'- well, ya don' really get to feel it with AS, either.

You will feel a LITTLE something though, and just have to work at it; it's an obstacle that you and your woman have to overcome together.

Trust me- when you compare what your life is like with the one you love, to before you had it...you'll be happy you have it!

Just remember- I did not initially go after HER- she went after ME!

The way I see it- if I have to prod and convince another woman to go out with me, and she seems to be on the fence about it, or only seems halfway interested, considering my AS will easily affect the relationship, I doubt she'll even be HALFWAY interested much longer...

Big tip- don' waste your time going to "those hangouts that everyone finds love at"- just do what it is you normally do, and you WILL find the right one.

I'm 28 and never experienced love. I don't find this joke at my expense by those above to be funny at all. My life sucks.

I know this is going to sound corny, but my relationships started improving once I stopped believing there was something wrong with me. Which is difficult, I know. For one thing, I definitely had to stop reading anything about AS written by anyone who doesn't have it. I really don't need to read a list of stuff I do sometimes when I'm adjusting to a new situation, etc. That doesn't qualify as a definition of who I am. It's such a small piece of it.

Yes, of course AS is a giant pain in the ass at times, to the point where you sometimes want to give up. Basically, I just stopped trying to adjust to other people's expectations, and focused on what I am: someone who's extremely smart, creative, talented, doesn't give a crap what anyone thinks, does what she wants, when she wants, says what she thinks, has high ideals and lives by them. It took me 29 years to get to this point, and I can honestly say that I would not give up my AS, a statement that would have seemed crazy to me ten years ago.

Everyone is attracted to someone who is confident and free, and people have been more drawn to me since my attitude about myself changed. Anyone with AS has the potential to live this way, because we already have that aversion to living by society's rules. Other people will always be afraid to some extent of straying too far from the norm; we definitely don't have that problem. It's a question of gaining the confidence to turn things around, so that when you feel people questioning the way you behave/live/whatever, you don't automatically assume they're right and you're wrong, or shrink into a corner because of some criticism. We're born to stand out; might as well make the most of it.

Obviously, there are still things I hate about AS, I still have challenges, and I always will. But so does everyone else. The people I date now are attracted to the very things about myself I tried to hide for so much of my life... the eccentricities, the independence, the sensitivity. Those are all good things. If you believe it, they will too.

My current boyfriend told me the other night he's never met a girl like me in his life...well, duh.

The funny thing is, I knew him ten years ago, and he never showed the slightest interest. When we met up again recently, he immediately started pursuing me. Attitude makes a big difference.

if you are happy with you u are and live your life in your own way then yes.

Some interesting mixed comments there. I think those that feel there life sucks beacuse of there AS really need to wake up and make things happen i sort of been doing that my self, now i want to make things happen!

Dude not to be mean but we are not makeing a joke t your expense. And you life doesn't suck that bad could be worse you could be living on street with no food and no money . You just need to hold your head up and look toward the future. After my dad died i thought my life was done with i drank A LOT i lost 2 girlfriends and my mom was a wreck too but i just held my head up and looked to the future ! And guess what it worked!

I'm 50, been married to the same woman for 18 years. We've had dramatic ups and downs. But she really loves me, and I really love her. We have two daughters, both from previous relationships, and they're doing great. I'm a happy grandpa, and a happy husband.
I met my wife when I was 30.
We dated for two years before getting married.
She knew from the moment we met that I wasn't "normal".
She doesn't believe I have AS.
If something happened to her, I'd prolly remain single for the rest of my life ...