Are most people with AS passive or aggressive?

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29 Nov 2008, 12:34 pm

I suppose this depends on the individual person and possible circumstances in general.I,myself tend to be fairly passive by most respects yet, there has been times where I've become a tadbit agressive mostly over what I felt was an injustice being carried out against me or those around myself if this makes any sense whatsoever?
These days, I'm mostly quiet & peaceful for, rarely does anything bother me nowadays but, it must be stated in ancient times I never took to being mocked or tormented.

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29 Nov 2008, 2:49 pm

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I don't understand "passive-aggressive" behavior--this must be completely in the NT realm.

Why do you say this (bold part)? I was described as "passive aggresivve" in a behavioral report in high school.

It just doesn't seem a priori like it would be an Aspie-like behavior--expressing aggression in such a roundabout manner via passivity. But I'm apparently wrong.

Okay, I'll throw out another wild hypothesis: It isn't innate Aspie behavior; rather we learned to do it by observing NTs. They invented it, but we perfected it.

I must perform some experiments to study all aspects of this passive-aggressive behavior. These should not require more than a third of your planet's people... :alien:

EDIT: Replaced typical by innate.

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29 Nov 2008, 3:03 pm

online agressive, in real life passive. :lol:

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23 Aug 2009, 1:51 pm

Passive, I tend to avoid conflict at all costs :roll: Very rarely aggressive if pushed but it normally takes a lot to get me that far.

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23 Aug 2009, 1:58 pm

I consider myself both passive and aggressive.

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23 Aug 2009, 2:31 pm

sheppeyescapee wrote:

Passive, I tend to avoid conflict at all costs :roll:

Very rarely aggressive if pushed but it normally takes a lot to get me that far.

Passive and very conflict-avoidant here, too. However, I will stand up for myself and for what is right and can get angry when pushed, but even then, I see that as defensive, not aggressive.

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23 Aug 2009, 2:46 pm

Passive/aggressive doesn't mean passive then aggressive when provoked. It is a passive way of expressing aggression like the silent treatment mentioned before. I have a hard time imaging most people with ASD as being passive/aggressive (too direct). As for myself Long Fuse/Big Boom. I know you're supposed to let people know they need to back off but more often than not that is ignored and everyone acts surprised if I lose my temper.

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23 Aug 2009, 3:39 pm

I have always been the passive type, I'm very quiet and rarely get upset about anything.

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23 Aug 2009, 4:15 pm

darby54 wrote:

sheppeyescapee wrote:

Passive, I tend to avoid conflict at all costs :roll:

Very rarely aggressive if pushed but it normally takes a lot to get me that far.

Passive and very conflict-avoidant here, too. However, I will stand up for myself and for what is right and can get angry when pushed, but even then, I see that as defensive, not aggressive.

I agree ...I change my answer to passive-defensive!

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23 Aug 2009, 4:53 pm

Passive, sometimes agressive, sometimes passive-agressive.
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23 Aug 2009, 4:59 pm

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Classic passive-aggressive over here.

LOL.. me too when I was a kid, but I didn't like it so I squashed the aggressive part and now I'm just passive. Or I try to be. >_<;;;
I am not outright aggressive ever, I don't think.

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23 Aug 2009, 6:08 pm

Aggressive.

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23 Aug 2009, 9:59 pm

It depends on the situation. There are situations where I was too passive but plenty of others where I lose control.

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23 Aug 2009, 10:06 pm

When I'm in public/around strangers: Passive
When I'm around family/people I know: Aggressive.

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24 Aug 2009, 5:28 pm

Unnaturally calm, but stubborn beyond coercion.

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24 Aug 2009, 7:37 pm

My first instinct is to be passive-aggressive. Always. But I make an effort to not be passive-aggressive and deal with my problems rationally. As rationally as possible.

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