Is there pride in autism/asperger's?

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NZaspiegirl016
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28 Nov 2011, 10:07 pm

Verdandi wrote:

NZaspiegirl016 wrote:

Well, I sort of have pride in my AS, on another forum, in my signature, I put "Aspie and proud!" in bold, pink letters. But I've only told a few people in real life, no-one else. But it doesn't matter if I tell people, because my bigmouth sister already has! So much for surprise revelation next year! I'll still do the speech anyway, and tell people during, just it may not be a surprise anymore. The way I see it, my sister told people. People have friends and siblings who they would likely tell. It would go through a whole bunch of friends and siblings, get to my year level, and BAM! It's no longer a surprise! But I'm still sort of hoping it doesn't happen like that.

The combination of your icon and that I keep seeing you post after me makes me nervous.

Actually, I think your icon is pretty funny.

Thanks! I'd been meaning to do something like that for a long time, but every time I've tried to do that on other forums, it was too big. So I made it smaller on here in case this had the same type of thing.

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29 Nov 2011, 2:07 am

Verdandi wrote:

artrat wrote:

Verdandi wrote:

artrat wrote:

Shame! I can't look people in the eye and I can't get past a job interview. I have no Friends and will probably never be in a relationship. I blame this on aspergers.
The espies that chose pride probably have a talent or wrote a book about autism. I don't understand math,science or computers and have no talent.

Why is it shameful to have something you didn't choose to have nor could you control?

I am ashamed of myself and I have aspergers. If I were an NT I would possibly not be ashamed of myself because I would have better social skills

Why are you ashamed of something you had no control over?

It's like being ashamed of being short, or of having a particular hair color.

Many people are not rational.

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29 Nov 2011, 7:45 pm

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I have shame because what's the point of being a human if you can't socialise, when humans are supposed to be social creatures?

says who ?

DSMV ?

Marketing HQ ?

Womens Day ?

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29 Nov 2011, 8:12 pm

I think there should be pride. All of us. We're special. We're unique. We're not like "everybody", what would be so boring...

Yes, we have difficulties. Who doesn't? Socialising... We can learn to do that. If not as well as neurotypicals, at least enough to avoid being "isolated" all the time. They say we can't socialise at all, but, well, I've been here for only 2 days and I've already met so many nice and friendly people in the forums. All aspies. Or most of them, at least. Ok, it's different here in the internet. It's easier. But it does show who we really are. It shows us that "yes, we can". So I don't think there's anything to be ashamed of.

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29 Nov 2011, 8:25 pm

Having AS is something you have no control over, but my attitude towards "pride" has always been: I have AS, so be it, no need to make a big deal of it.

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15 Dec 2011, 6:25 pm

I'm proud to be an aspie, just like someone who is gay/lesbian should be proud to be. It's not a "lalala I'm better than you" type of pride, more of accepting Asperger's as part of who I am and not being ashamed of it type of pride

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15 Dec 2011, 6:29 pm

I don't care.

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15 Dec 2011, 9:58 pm

I've got some lyrical bars that I wrote somewhere that sums it up for me; here they are:

Quote:

*Daniel dusts off his favourite piece of poetic prose and gives his never-ending negativity to the world, for positivity is but one painful path in this place*

There's no pride in my autistic stride. It doesn't make me special, unique and intelligible, the words I learnt in speech therapy made the pride of this hide. I've got no abilities that are special other than knowing it took me two years to spell "park" 'cause I lack that verbal spark. I sit 'round and flap my hand but it doesn't get me up there in the air, it only draws a stare. Ha, a big party sounds fine, I hope you got plenty of wine, it'll make a good fire as I burn the building down as you all dine (the meltdown did it).

-the autistic tin man, who is never coming to a store near you

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16 Dec 2011, 5:34 am

Having some inborn traits does not make me inherently proud; it was not my choice, it was not something I worked on. What does make me proud is when I am told that I couldn't be able to do this or that, and I still do it. Psychologist told me that, despite of my intelligence, I would get mostly solid B in high school because of my certain traits and yet, I got A's.

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16 Dec 2011, 11:07 am

Whatever the outcome, if I'm able to pursue proper assessment until I receive it, I'll be proud that I saw it through. I've discovered some new options, and I'll post in my blog as soon as I have more to tell. In the meantime, I'm proud to have found the courage to face all this and not buckle under the strain when things went so wrong. If I end up actually being diagnosed with any form of autism, I'll be both relieved to have arrived there at last, having resisted being swayed by someone else's poor judgement and persisted in the face of adversity, and also proud of what I've accomplished in life up to this point without even knowing what I was dealing with for all this time.

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16 Dec 2011, 12:37 pm

I have no pride or shame in having ASD. I've never been bullied and I look like an NT. There would not be a nessecity for pride in my case as a countermeasure.
My pride stems from achievements and endurances, that pride doesn't last too long. More important (I'm speaking only on my behalf) is human dignity.
There are so many possible distinctions and classifications in humans, it's dignity that binds us all.

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16 Dec 2011, 12:41 pm

I don't see the point in being proud of something I did not accomplish, having AS is not an accomplishment so I am not really proud about it or ashamed of it, it just is. Too me that would like being proud that I have brown hair or some other thing I did not choose...I like that I have brown hair and I don't mind that I have symptoms of AS.

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16 Dec 2011, 12:49 pm

Not really. It's just something that's there. I'm proud of some of the traits it gives me, because they help me achieve things, but I wouldn't say I'm proud of the condition. I don't want a cure, nor do I hate it, but I'm not exactly proud of it either. I'm content, I guess.

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16 Dec 2011, 12:59 pm

Some people may be proud because some say many geniuses were autistic or had asperger. But that's just silly :lol:

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16 Dec 2011, 9:20 pm

Tuttle wrote:

I wish there was a word other than pride/proud that was the "proper self-respect" part of it. I dislike the use of the word pride in 'gay pride', and 'autistic pride' seems to be the same sort of situation as that.

This. It just so happens that my brain is wired differently than many other people's. Asperger Syndrome comes with the package. It doesn't make me superior or inferior to others.

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