Aspies DO have the desire to having social contacts. Right?

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Not me. Unless they're rockstars. And not famous ones. Just the local guitarist in a retro-rock band.

Either way, I'm fine on my own. I got my interests, three cats and a dog. Plus there's like 4 people living with me.

The reason why I totally support self-diagnosis is that sometimes, the experts are wrong. They'll diagnose high-functioning classic autism when Asperger Syndrome may apply, or vice versa. That's why the Asperger Syndrome diagnosis is going away soon.

The only difference between classical autism and Asperger Syndrome is that, with the former, there's going to be some expressive and receptive delay, whereas, with the latter, there isn't--only a pragmatic language delay. In fact, "pragmatic language delay" was an educational diagnosis I had until I dropped out of ninth grade.

Two people, one who has mild classical autism, and the other who has mild Asperger Syndrome, are going look a lot alike. On the other hand, someone with severe classical autism is going to look a lot different from someone who has severe Asperger Syndrome. That's what I meant.

Expressive delay also exists in AS (I know, because I have many expressive issues myself), language isn't the only factor in deciding between AS and Autism. I see what you mean as far as the difference between severe cases, but there's going to be differences between the two either way you look at it, that's why there's different diagnosis on the autism spectrum, no two are alike and there's always a degree for each issue.

In my case I want people I can trust but rarely actually care about interacting with people.

So I want the contacts, but don't care about the interaction.

As for why people interact in here - I interact on here because its somewhere to get information about ASDs and share information about ASDs, its information based for me, not social based, and not writing based.

Yes, and I was asking WHY.

Expressive delays actually don't exist in AS. You've may have been misdiagnosed. It happens.

But it's clear that you aren't going to be convinced by me, so I'm not going to have this argument anymore.

Yes i would like to have friends however i have had friends in the past but unfortunately most of them take advantage of me and recently i took a few contacts from a few aspies that i know phoned them up but they never kept in contact so therefore i will still keep on trying and hopefully find a few friends or so.

.I have those I work with, and my wife, but TBH the whole friends thing is utterly overrated - I've got enough going on in my life without being forced to socialise to keep people happy.

I wasted most of my life trying hard to be social.. giving up days of my life to remain friends with people who would just suddenly up and leave one day when they get bored. Then getting depressed because I didn't understand how people around me managed to make friends so easily.. I just assumed I was a particular kind of stupid.

I have zero motivation to go back to that.

Exactly!

Thankfully, my Ohio friend/cousin-in-law has enough friends to socialize with, and is busy enough to not mind the few times I visit and need to withdraw for a few hours.

I am not sure.

Until a few years ago, I was content to be left alone engaged only in my lonely interests (video games, reading encyclopaedias, drawing and worldbuilding). As time went by, those interests began to lose intensity (nowadays, I still like them, but not as much as I used to) and I began to feel increasingly bored and lonely.

However, even when I manage to make friends (like in my last year at school), I eventually get bored and want to be left alone. And when I lose contact with them, I sometimes miss them, but I cannot think of a way to contact them (yeah, I have them on Facebook, but I have no idea of what to say).

I believe that the best solution for me would be to have a girlfriend; that way, I would not feel alone and yet, since I do not want to live with anybody, I would still be left alone when I wanted/needed to. We could see each other only during weekends/vacations/holidays. But that would require a woman who understood my introversion (not to mention willing to tolerate my eccentricity), which is nearly impossible to find.

I have a low desire to have social contact. And I can't really build up any real connection to other people.

I'd rather have social contacts with two or three good friends who understand and accept my differences than try to be friends with 20+ people who might have a hidden agenda to make me their project.

I am not formally diagnosed with AS and most likely have NLD and maybe have AS.

My desire for social contact is there and sometimes though if I am focused on something else such as studying for online classes or applying for jobs I want less social contact.

In the past and recently I try to make friends or date and if the person or persons are not just my cup of tea I will not be interested in continuing the relationship. In the past I have had good success in having a few close friendships and will mainly hang out with 1 to 3 friends at a time and I do like even going to parties if I go with one or more friends I feel comfortable with. I am certainly not the life of the party by any means.

In the past year it has been more difficult to continue friendships as I would like due to having a focus on other interests.