Prejucises by autistic people about autism

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i can cope with blunt. I think its efficient.

I cant cope with abuse and projections though.

sorry i killed the tread. i specifically tried to avoid an argument but ended in it anyway.

You made the point much better than i did.

I should learn to quote and use a forum properly.

I don't like the 'we aspies....." statements either and I don't like the attitude that people with autism belong to some kind of exclusive cool club. It seems strange to me that people think that way............AS is just a disability/disorder like any other, like intellectual disabilities, learning disabilities, mental illnesses ect. Of course it's different from other disorders....it's its own thing.....I'm just saying having AS isn't any better than having another disorder. I'm not any prouder of having been diagnosed with AS than I am of being diagnosed with a learning disability or than I would be if I developed Schizophrenia and was diagnosed with that. Sure there are strengths associated with it...there are strengths associated with a lot of disorders and disabilities; some examples are that blind people on average have higher than average verbal IQ scores and vocabulary sub test scores, people with bipolar disorder scored higher on a lab measure of creativity than the general population. When one part of the brain isn't functioning well another part sometimes develops to compensate for the deficit. The strengths associated with AS aren't special and certainly don't make us superior beings or more evolved or a different race or something. Also, seeing AS as just a difference or personality type and not a disorder belittles the severe problems many people have because of AS and the accommodations we need and cause people to not take us seriously. I don't think it likely that 90% of people on WP who claim to have AS don't have it -though I don't really know-and wouldn't presume to be able to tell from posts on an Internet forum, being a layperson, who has a disorder as complex as ASD, or any disorder for that matter ,and who doesn't. Still, I think the attitudes that I described above-which I have seen expressed by some WP members- can be harmful to people with autism and are arrogant.

It's fairly obvious to me that people like myself and B9 are more 'autistic', hence we see things in a more clear-cut, black and white way and those who are heading more towards the NT end of the spectrum see things in a more 'grey' manner. Hence the disagreements. This is why I will always support a person like B9 whether he's right or wrong as I feel more 'kinship with him.
I don't think some people here 'get' this kinship feeling and it's probably because your kinship is closer to the NT end of the spectrum but you don't want to play down the deep end with the big boys, you prefer to try and 'lord it' over people further down the spectrum, which is pretty crass in my opinion - go and interact with your own type instead of trying to impose NT-related thinking onto people who aren't interested in it.

I have an innate 'like me/not like me' instinct

I really don't get a "kinship" feeling with anyone, autistic or otherwise.

Hence why I reject the "we Aspies" thing.

I dont want to get into another pointless stupid argument

what does your innate instinct tell you of what people USED to be like?

its not my aim to get at or characterise anyone really

with regard to the "us v's them" mentality - thats totally bogus and will not help you imo.

People are just like they have always been! Nothing has ever changed, there..
I bet if evetone on WP actually got evaluated, you would find at least 60-70% of posters were on the spectrum. However, there has always been a few who seem to think that a formal dx is required for membership here. Which proves that everyone has their own little biases.
That aside, most people know what I feel about "Aspie Pride" & such other attempts to make ASDs some sort of identity. These are disorders, not lifestyles.

Sincerely,
Matthew