Aspie girls just wanna have fun?

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I admit, a lot of this describes me!

As for imaginary play, I invented characters from other countries, depending on what country I was fascinated in at the moment.

My strong subject was definitely English and I have a Master's in English literature.

I am definitely into animals and talk about my "pet subject," literally, all the time-CATS!

I don't lash out unless I'm really frustrated.

My interests do get the better of me at times.

As for overcompensation for lack of empathy, I suppose I do this, too. I have read a lot about the history of the Ukraine over the years and the Terror Famine of the 1930s and the Chernobyl disaster.

I also read a lot about medical issues and various disabilties and differences.

Why is it that every time someone talks about the difference between typical aspergergian males and females, I always fall firmly into the female category? I don't care for the implications.

Which are?

Not true for me. I really didn't get imaginative play at all, with others or by myself.

Also untrue for me. I did and still do (at age 50) get into more technological ways of thinking.

Not sure I understood the other comments, so I will refrain from answering to them lol

Anyway, I was always a bit more male in some ways ha ha

Saw this list on a website somewhere... anyway not officially DX myself either, but how these apply to me:

--Girl aspies are less likely to lack imaginative play. In fact, many female aspies retreat into make-believe worlds to escape from difficult social realities.
I make-believe all the time
--While boy aspies tend to become obsessed with science, technology, and math, the most common obsessions in girl aspies appear to be literature and animals.
I'm obsessed with science and animals
--Boy aspies are easier to diagnose because they are more likely than girl aspies to lash out.
I had terrible, terrible tantrums as a kid.
--While boy aspies accept their lack of empathy as simply a boost to their capacity for logical thinking, girl aspies have a tendency to seek out emotional stimulation. Of course girls have the same autistic objectivity, but they are more likely to try to overcome it. This leads to many aspie girls having "morbid" interests (I have seen evidence of this on wrongplanet; no one has suggested a WP Auschwitz guys club, but the WP Auschwitz girls club, God forgive our irreverent souls, has five members). We whack ourselves over the head with tragedy to teach ourselves empathy.
I'm not morbid
--With boys, social difficulties are more likely to result from compulsions and rituals. With girls, the root of the problem is often obsessions, whether the focus is on pet subjects or people.
True... my obsessions run my life, and is about all I talk about to other people well.

Oh, just that I already think I'm too feminine for my own good as it is.

How can one be too feminine for one's own good? Are you wrongly taken to be gay by some people? I'm just curious about this. Apologies if my questions embarrass or anger you.

No, I'm not upset. I'm rarely mistaken for a gay man, but apparently I give off a strong feminine vibe all the same. Right now, I'm trying to find my pure being and the feminine things are just the result of a very literal child being raised by a rabid feminist and a father who rarely weighed in on masculinity. So I have gender issues naturally, and having it highlighted in my mind is a little off-putting.

I was raised by my mother. My father was usually absent and did not live with us after I was 4 years old. She wasn't a feminist but I understand your trepidation or worry.