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auntblabby
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12 Sep 2016, 7:54 pm
somanyspoons wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
if I hosted a pot luck and people left their food at my place, that would make me very happy 
Maybe you should host one and invite the OP's friends. Sounds like you'd get a good haul. Seriously though. Think about it. This is not the kind of stuff you want to be eating for days on end. Its usually stuff that will leave you feeling sick if you try to eat it for several days. So what happens is you host your first pot luck and you think the left overs are GREAT! And you get sick eating them the whole next week. And maybe this happens one or two more times. And then you finally wise up and find yourself catching people at the door and reminding them to take their food home because its just going in the trash if they don't.
I can tell you are far pickier about food than I am. I was homeless and have eaten out of the garbage and survived. so the chances are very high that whatever food the people are nice enough to bring will be appreciated and savored by me, I will freeze what I can to make it last. I do not waste food unless under duress.
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12 Sep 2016, 7:57 pm
12 Sep 2016, 7:59 pm
Yep...you were left "holding the bag," so to speak 
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12 Sep 2016, 8:01 pm
I long have taken others' cast-off foods. much of what I have in general, is cast-off stuff.
12 Sep 2016, 8:24 pm
auntblabby wrote:
somanyspoons wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
if I hosted a pot luck and people left their food at my place, that would make me very happy
Maybe you should host one and invite the OP's friends. Sounds like you'd get a good haul. Seriously though. Think about it. This is not the kind of stuff you want to be eating for days on end. Its usually stuff that will leave you feeling sick if you try to eat it for several days. So what happens is you host your first pot luck and you think the left overs are GREAT! And you get sick eating them the whole next week. And maybe this happens one or two more times. And then you finally wise up and find yourself catching people at the door and reminding them to take their food home because its just going in the trash if they don't.
I can tell you are far pickier about food than I am. I was homeless and have eaten out of the garbage and survived. so the chances are very high that whatever food the people are nice enough to bring will be appreciated and savored by me, I will freeze what I can to make it last. I do not waste food unless under duress.
You're right, potluck left overs are higher quality than your average dumpster haul. How about if I just invite you to my next potluck? We'll tell everyone its only polite to leave the left overs and you can take them all home.
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12 Sep 2016, 8:27 pm
somanyspoons wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
somanyspoons wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
if I hosted a pot luck and people left their food at my place, that would make me very happy
Maybe you should host one and invite the OP's friends. Sounds like you'd get a good haul. Seriously though. Think about it. This is not the kind of stuff you want to be eating for days on end. Its usually stuff that will leave you feeling sick if you try to eat it for several days. So what happens is you host your first pot luck and you think the left overs are GREAT! And you get sick eating them the whole next week. And maybe this happens one or two more times. And then you finally wise up and find yourself catching people at the door and reminding them to take their food home because its just going in the trash if they don't.
I can tell you are far pickier about food than I am. I was homeless and have eaten out of the garbage and survived. so the chances are very high that whatever food the people are nice enough to bring will be appreciated and savored by me, I will freeze what I can to make it last. I do not waste food unless under duress.
You're right, potluck left overs are higher quality than your average dumpster haul. How about if I just invite you to my next potluck? We'll tell everyone its only polite to leave the left overs and you can take them all home.
12 Sep 2016, 9:44 pm
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12 Sep 2016, 9:56 pm
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13 Sep 2016, 3:09 pm
hollowmoon wrote:
-If you bring something to a potluck, it is polite to leave it there- not take the leftovers home.
- When you first meet someone you are supposed to engage in small talk, being quiet and not asking any questions is considered rude.
- When you first meet someone you are supposed to engage in small talk, being quiet and not asking any questions is considered rude.
Kinda impressed that you have been invited to so many potlucks you needed to know the rule
If I bring something, I bring it in a disposable dish or opt for wine or something that I can leave behind. I don't want to worry about having to remember to get it back. This is where I get stuck, I am pretty good at passing online/via text so when I actually meet the person IRL I don't think we need all the filler but apparently we do because we usually stop communicating after that. Once I replay the meeting in my head I can see where I might have gone wrong but it is too late at that point.
13 Sep 2016, 3:15 pm
Sweetleaf wrote:
Cardia wrote:
I'm 22 and I'm still learning. I really wish that us aspies could all be given manuals for how to maneuver in the world of NT's. Their social rules sometimes make absolutely no sense!
One unspoken social rule that I recently learned is that if you're talking with your friend, and your friend's friend suddenly approaches and initiates conversation with ONLY your friend, it is cue for you to leave. Instead, I just stood there waiting awkwardly until my friend said "Um... I think this is when you leave."
One unspoken social rule that I recently learned is that if you're talking with your friend, and your friend's friend suddenly approaches and initiates conversation with ONLY your friend, it is cue for you to leave. Instead, I just stood there waiting awkwardly until my friend said "Um... I think this is when you leave."
Sounds like rudeness on your friends part, if their other friend wanted to talk to them alone they should have waited till you and them weren't talking. Just doesn't sound like a very good friend.
Pretty sure the superseding rule is you don't interrupt a conversation between two people, you are supposed to wait until they are done unless it is an emergency. If an emergency, you are supposed to say "excuse me" before interrupting. My grandma was old school and she went as far as telling me you do not cross two people speaking, and if you have to, you are supposed to crouch down like their convo is an imaginary line you can't cross. I did the limbo as a kid but now that I am older I don't do it anymore
13 Sep 2016, 3:35 pm
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