differences between boys and girls with autism

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There's a home for males in Camp Verde. And many low spectrum autistic males have caregivers through the Flag Hozhoni program or however you spell it. There is a school for autie boys in like Mesa or Tempe too.

All of the males that show up at the meetings are embarrassed and unsocial. One guy even sit and cried cause someone bumped his chair. The females are similarly unsocial and vary from silent as mice (me) to won't shut up. I'm not sure I would call the can't shut themselves up as social, rather more like social failures. Most of the guys you have to poke them to see if they're still alive. But at least they show up.

that camp verde place is called rainbow achers i think and you have to be extremely low functiong and not be your own gaurdian. autism is a developmental disability that the state of arizona recignizes, aspergers is not. wich means if you have autism more than likely you can get services for, ie: residential respite etc. believe me ive already been down this road, theres no residential services for anyone with just aspergers in this state.

Richard I've never heard of Rainbow Archers. The place is called Rusty's Ranch that I'm talking about.

Someone told me that boys with autism also have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and that autistic girls will have problems with depression and anxiety.

Male; despite efforts against anxiety ...no girlfriends PLUS I've been raped numerous times. its not 'oneupsmanship' just a point that 'we' can be screwed over in that way with our gender-specific problems to boot. ....I landed in the shallowend of the fourtune pool.

It's not like AS guys don't get abused, too. There are downright evil women who will take advantage of an AS man in a heartbeat. This stereotype of men as abusers is just plain invalid. Either gender can be the aggressor; the only difference tends to be that abusive women will try to humiliate, dominate, or belittle their targets more often, and men will get physical more often.

The societal expectations are different. Men can be "immature" for longer, but women aren't expected to be assertive and independent. Either way, there are drawbacks.

I think that info was wrong. the information I've been looking at indicates that depression, anxiety, and ADHD are commonly comorbid with AS for both sexes.

as far as girls having an easier time... well, no. I got beat up on at home and at school. the only relationships I had were with older men who wanted sex. when I did get married it was to someone who seemed fairly desperate and I "settled", thinking I wouldn't do any better, and at that point I really did want to be married. it sucked though, because he expected me to be subservient and "female" without notifying me in advance of the requirement. he also displayed (and still does) severe narcissistic traits, if not NPD (haven't managed to get him diagnosed yet).

my second marriage is to a guy with AS who is much younger than I am. IMO he was lucky to stay out of "relationships" when he was younger because he avoided the emotional damage I endured. maybe he was lonely, but so was I, even though there seemed to be plenty of men willing to have sex with me. they just didn't actually want to have sex with ME, they just wanted to have sex.

I agree with that.