Do all parens of autistic kids secretly hate them?

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My mum prefers that I am HFA.

My stepdad keeps claiming to be HFA whenever a decent aspect of it comes up but whenever he fits the profile & it's a negative thing, he denies it.

My dad probably resents me but he is more neurodiverse than I am.

He shouldn't have had a kid cos he's too mentally unstable.

He doesn't resent me for being autistic but probably resents me for not being able to handle his mental illness.

Q: Do All Parents Of Autistic Kids Secretly Hate Them?
A: Yes. My parents treat me poorly and they really don't care, they are intentionally hurting my feeling and letting people without autism get away with a lot of naughty behavior.

I don’t think that all parents dislike , that their child is autistic.

There is a very good chance , that a persons parents , may not be aware of autism as something to look for
Even if the child is different , they may just torture the child until the child complies with their wishes .
They may have no understanding of autism . As might be the case . Cause everyone likes to think that their child is perfect . Any creature may be taught to comply if forced over a prolonged period of time.. Parents have at their means
Numerous ways to force compliance . Especially if the child is verbal to any degree . (Parents presume the child understands .) or if the parents could they might institutionalize the child
In the early days , doctors did not have the means or the information to differentiate between forms
Or Various degrees of autism or form of which in their time was generalized as retardation .
These circumstances were common in early years of discovery of autism . In my humble opinion .

Those comment chains are horrible. People like this don't understand autism at all and just act like they think every single autistic person is severely mentally disabled and that we have no positive qualities. I'm sure my parents would prefer me to be NT, but if I had an autistic kid, no matter how "severe" they were they would not "burden" me. I would not abort them.

If parents do hate their kids because they have ASD
it is very ironic

as ASD is known to be inherited from parents

so the parents likely have strong ASD traits as well!

Personally, i think there are times that parents sometimes resent their kids.
As kids cost money, take up a lot of time, cause them stress etc.

But at the same time, parents also love their kids, a lot of the time unconditionally.
I think parents mellow as they grow older.

I also think that a formal diagnosis at least gives the parents (and the individual) a better understanding of the condition, which can slowly filter through, to help people understand and eventually make some allowances,
which does often help make people happier.

It won't come as a surprise.
Odds it's more of a case of 'love the child, hate the autism'.

Love the cute cuddles and smiles and all the appropriate behaviours, then hate practically everything else that doesn't follow.





In my case...
Back when my mom didn't knew any better, she just spent a lot of time baffled and frustrated. For a good decade of my life.

Frustrated enough to half the time yelling, physically hurt me and getting away with it.
And I might be just as frustrated and baffled towards her but for different reasons.

When she found out I might've actually been different (an ND, not a 'defiant' NT) she just changed.
And so did I towards her for most part.

She's still doesn't truly get it, but at least she no longer assumes what isn't.
She doesn't press my diagnosis to my face, nor she denies it's existence.

Understands that it doesn't justify everything yet also explains a lot of things.
It's possibly the one and only thing she truly understands about me in this particular area. Yet overall, this simple act of comprehension is more than enough.

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Not really. I'd say it depends on the parents and the culture they are in. In some areas, disabled people are more respected and in some others stigmatised and it affects how the family will treat the autistic child.
I know many parents who have dedicated their lives in raising their special needs kids and they love it.
Some people dislike their kids even if they are NT, the bad thing is that anyone has kid whether they liked it or not cause society puts pressure in starting a family and stuff but not everyone wants that and not every person is made to be a parent.