She doesn't GET IT!

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My art teacher wanted everyone to have a piece in the art show in town. I didn't really want to but he had me ut in a crappy pastel drawing that i oversprayed. so then my mom made this big deal over it, wanting my "stepdad" to come along and see it and bring the dog in the car if it will make you feel better and It won't! so now she's up there crying because I don't want my stepdad to go! I thought it would just be me and her! this is something private a part of me I don't want to share with him! and now she's yelling at me "f**k you!" and saying I don't care about anyone but myself! she doesn't get that i want these to be private! I don't want to share this with him! I feel it's none of his bussiness and he should stay out of it! and by both of them coming it makes it a big deal! and I just wanted it to be me and my mom!

Edit: now she drove off with him to see it!

Can you explain that you were counting on it being just her and you alone together to go see it? Would that help?

I did and she went with him anyway!! ! and Now I'm even more angry because she embarrassed me! I was pointing out a picture that this guy in mt class did wonderful picture, and she says "Oh, it's alright, nothing special." and he shows up behind her. and since the portrait looks exactly like him she knew it was him and he's like "Hi Emelia" and I'm like OMG he didn' hear that! please don't let him have heard that! and then to top it off, she tells me she has several other pictures of mine(personal pictures that she stole from my room) including one of my imaginary friend(though she doesn't know that she thinks it's a made up character.) I'm no artist but they are quite personal to me and I'm very angry she has them! I was looking all over for them, for several months! I thought I had lost them!

Everytime I go to my sisters my step dad comes and no one ever invites him.

My Mom thinks it's only natural I want him in my lie and to do things with him. I don't, I don't, and I don't! I want nothing to do with him, I don't even want him around!

He said I cant tell him not to put his feet on the table because I dont pay rent.

It's natural that your mom wants your stepdad to be part of your life. It's part of her trying to bring him into the family. At the same time, it would have been nice if she had asked you first if he could come along. Since she didn't, you have to make it plain. When you have a calm moment alone with her, you might say something like this:

"Mom, I understand that you wanted (stepdad) to come and see the painting I did. But painting to me is something very private. I'm very uncomfortable with my work being in public and I didn't want a big fuss made over it. I was hoping that just you and I would go and see it. In the future, I'd like you to ask me if I'm comfortable with (stepdad) going somewhere with us."

If that goes over well, you might consider asking her if she knows where your other paintings are. Even though you know she took them, do not say, "Where are my paintings that you took?" Just say something like, "By the way, those paintings that you mentioned at the show--I can't seem to find them. Do you have any idea where they might be?" That way, you don't sound like you're accusing her and hopefully she won't get defensive.

I hope this helps. If it doesn't, I apologize. Good luck!