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I was at a production meeting thursday afternoon for a campus show. The producer at the end of the meeting shouts out "Super bowl party at my house, Sunday at 5pm! 308 Dawes!" I walk by the place, The shades are drawn and it looks like no one is home, but there are cars parked everywhere. I'm getting mixed signals. Do I go up and knock on the door?

My dorm is having a super bowl party. I head down stairs and find myself at a loss. People are in the game room scarfing down pizza and soda and having a grand old time. But I know no one and no one seems to acknowledge my presence. Do I dare try and make my presence known, what do I even say?

Past history has told me in regards with social situations, if you don't know what to do, then don't try to do it at all.

No, instead I go up to the comfort and solitude of my own room and turn on the big game. But I'm not even paying attention. I don't even like watching the superbowl!

Parties - Problem #107 faced by me on a daily basis.

I think Super Bowl parties are relatively easy to handle, at least as parties go. You look perfectly normal when all you do is sit quietly and stare at the TV.

Are you acquainted with any of your co-workers from the campus show? It might have been a good idea to go along to the party with one or two of them, if you were comfortable. Otherwise, if you've worked with these people before and they know who you are, there wouldn't be anything weird about just walking up to the house and knocking on the door to see what's going on. Unless these people have expressed dislike for you, they'd probably be happy to have another person they know at their party.

I know what you mean when you described the party in your dorm- it's very awkward being by yourself when you don't know anything about anyone at a social gathering. If you wanted to stick around, the best thing (IMO) is to just keep a low profile and enjoy the game.

I never even went to a party until my senior year of high school, and I only partied infrequently until the very end of my freshman year of college. One thing I feel very strongly about, having experienced it myself, is that these things get dramatically easier over time. Get some experience under your belt, and you start writing these off as "just another party", so you don't do any overanalyzing which many of us are so prone to do. And I daresay this overanalyzing is evident in your post- I'm not trying to criticize here, I do the same thing in stressful or unfamiliar situations, which is what this seems to be for you.