Is living on your own scary?

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I put this in the autism section because I'm starting to worry that my autistic traits would interfere with independent living. I want to hear from some aspies and auties that live on their own! Please!

No, it's not scary it's fun.

1) You can eat what you want when you want and you set the portions. If you want to eat burgers at 11pm every night then go for it.

2) You can watch what you want on the TV and listen to what you want on the radio or stereo.

3) Bedtime when you want and if you want a Saturday lie-in nobody will complain.

4) Want to bring a member of the opposite sex home? No problem.

Put simply, the amount of freedom you have is amazing.

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It doesn't have to be, if you can do a few things on a consistent basis.

1) Pay your bills. Will you make more money than you spend? A month-by-month budget can help you determine if you'll have problems down the road. Also, try and find the most convenient ways to pay the bills. I got in bill trouble not from lack of funds but simply not getting around to writing out the check and mailing it out. Online/automatic withdrawal are your friends here, as long as you keep a positive balance.

2) Eat well. Do you know how to food shop for yourself and make simple meals? Take out is great time to time, but every day can get expensive and unhealthy. My last apartment didn't even have a stove, so I got by on a microwave, hot plate and toaster oven, which is enough to make just about anything for a single man.

3) Maintenance. Can you do your own laundry, change the occasional lightbulb, clean the bathroom and fix your own computer? There're other things too, but those are the main ones.

4) Help. Have a list of emergency numbers and locations if things go bad. Police, hospital, car repair, utilities, etc...

Basically, it's scary until it's not. Living your own life, making your own decisions, is a great thing. Once you get a routine down of the things you have to do, you'll find that you never want to go back to living under someone else's roof. Unless it's a girl, which is a whole new set of rules.

No. I prefer to be alone.

It is very lonely. I would not recommend it. Also, if you have an aversion to chores, find a respectable maid service and have them clean it now and then, or your apartment will end up filthy in no time.

It depends on what you want out of life. If you like being with people and they don't stress you out, then you might not appreciate living on your own. You might like to have a room mate or two, might even prefer living at home with mom and dad.

If people stress you out, you might find a reduction in anxiety and symptoms living on your own.

No,
It can be very difficult and lonely some times but so can living with other people,
Because of my autistic traits living alone is easier for me,
U may want to get someone to help u with certain things like cleaning and such.

I live on my own. I love it. I love the freedom of being able to do what I want when I want, to talk to myself without being self conscious because anyone's listening. My home is the place where I feel safe and free to be myself without having to 'pretend to be normal'.

The one thing that scares me is when something goes wrong in the house - like if the boiler breaks or something. That makes me panic a bit - but fortunately I have a neighbour who helps out with such things.

I also find it difficult to find my house tidy - it's always a mess, which gets a bit overwhelming.

Living on my own is fun and exciting.

I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. I can also be, who I truly am. It's fun.

That's something else to consider...houses can be expensive to maintain. An apartment could be a good bet because there isn't any yardwork and if something breaks, maintenance will come in and fix it, though it might take them a while to get to it.

Watch out or you'll get to where the scary thing is having to move back in or have other people in your house. I know I go just about NUTS when I have to have people in my house including family (and ESPECIALLY family) in my place for any extended length of time and it's all I can do not to snap off at them constantly because they're in my hair, in my routine, and usually criticizing everything to do with how I keep my place. (NO, I do not want my piles of stuff rearranged--I know where it all is! YES, I know how to clean, I just don't freak out over EVERY LITTLE THING. )

I've lived "on my own" since I was 19, though for a year or so I had to get a roommate due to expenses. I much prefer living alone. It gives me time to be myself, and space to decompress. I don't do well living with other people. Too much disruption to my routines. I even get nervous when I have to let my landlord in to fix things.

The only negative is that it would probably be good for me to be around people more. As it is now I can go a day or two without talking to anyone.

The only thing I miss about living with my parents was that I didn't have to grocery shop for myself. I like it when I go visit them and there's food there. And a place to do my laundry.

I was a little anxious the first time I lived on my own. My main concern was money. After the first month, I realised that I was going to be fine.

A budget is definitely a must if you don't make a lot of money. Lists and a big calender are very helpful.

I worked in a deli at one of my jobs and I ate at work most of the time. That helped keep my grocery cost down. I would eat inexpensively when I did eat at home unless I really wanted something special.

Living on my own is wonderful. It feels great to be able to come home from anywhere and shut the World out behind me.

I don't mind living with other's who have AS/Autism because they have never crowded me and we understood each other so well.

But if you ever consider having a room-mate, it's easier if you both share the expense of a maid service. Otherwise you might want to schedule house cleaning on specific days, ie; clean kitchen on Monday's, clean living room on Tuesday's, clean bathroom on Wednesday's, etc... If you keep everything up, cleaning is fast and easy.

Living on my own is great. I haven't much experience dealing with money, as I have no income, and my mother covers my major expenses (mainly rent and some appliances). I love the freedom to do what I want.

My biggest complaint is the loneliness. I live several hundred miles from my nearest relative, and making friends is not easy, as you can imagine. I am trying to mitigate this. However, the loneliness is not enough to give up my life and move in with my mother.

love every pit off it

I guess my main concern here is money. I'm responsible, but that doesn't mean anything if you don't make enough. And... I guess I might get lonely sometimes, but I've so had enough of my parents and their deafness.