Adult Developmental Disability Place to Attend

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If others poked fun when I went inside the special education department in high school, wouldn’t it be the same thing for partaking in an adult dev disability place? For instance to understand a mentality, which you are just text things on my screen, if I said I was going to attend a place for adults with dev disabilities, what would people think. If you have a form of autism would you want to go to one?

It is for adults with autism to but that is a great diversity of mentalities..

I have determined no matter what, in spite of self-pride I do attend as to do something. Yet there is no other places I can find to go in real life to try to form social interactions reasonably. I have tried. If I do not fit in there, I think I will try to volunteer as at least it would be a better environment.

I did not for example fit into special education or the mainstream either; I still am not partaking similarly and relating to the world like the average person. Not that I am saying that my way is inferior, just that I don’t do to well with it.

SC,

You have to understand the differences between adulthood and childhood:

1) Adults are not all forced into one building for 6+ hours/day depending on where they live and without regard to who they are and what their abilities are. True, there are special schools but those are only in the largest of cities.

2) Most adults are too busy worrying about their own lives to be bothered with yours. There are some adults that still believe that life is like high school but they are of the minority.

3) Unlike school, if you try something and realize you do not fit in, you can leave. There is no one holding you at any of these facitities.

4) Most of the facilities that you mention are in out of the way places that most adults do not venture into except for work. Unlike special ed, they do not have signs that advertise easy targets here. Even the places that do have signs, the participants to not have to worry because our society eschews adults (not talking about immature college kids here) from harming those with disabilities in the open (it has to be done (and it is) in private without most of society knowing what is happening).

I'm getting mad.

Why are you getting mad?

I do not really want to go, but there is few other places.

I do not really want a friend anyways.

Interesting thread, sc. I'm glad you started it.

Louis,
As you know, the Autism Society you and Ghosthunter go to is in a very out of the way place. I assumed it was because of cheap rent but you may have listed another important reason....ain't nobody going there by accident.

Near there, on University, is a place for services for blind adults. Hopefully someday an Autism group can be so open.

BeeBee

duplicate post--sorry

Somehow I have to learn to drive so I can go anywhere I want.

BeeBee,

An added note to your comment, even if you knew the general area where the AuSM offices are but not the exact building, you still would not be able to find it.

I think part of that involves the belief of society. The issues of being blind are very visible to the rest of the public and as such the public accepts a responsibility to assist the person (such as stopping at a green light if a blind person is in the cross walk). The perception is that of a problem. The blind are allowed to have pets in places where pets are not allowed. In the same sense, a person with Type I diabetes is allowed to have needles in society without people accusing them of being drug users.

A person with HFA or AS however does not have the visual signs to suggest to society that there is an issue. In fact, the person looks normal and as such, society infers that they are normal. If the person then acts outside of what society considers normal, then society condems that person because of the lack of a visual cue to suggest that the person has issues. A person with AS is not allowed to talk to themselves aloud in public. They are not allowed to stim in public. The person with AS is cognizent of societies disapproval which then leads to other issues rather than solving the problem. This is one case where a person with severe autism is better off because little is expected of the person and they are oblivious to societies rules.

Hopefully, society will recognize the hidden disabilities but personally, I do not expect to see that day.

SC,

Driving is a very hard skill to aquire (requiring quite a bit more practice than simply passing the road test) but the reward of being allowed to go wherever you want is more than worth it.

Take it from someone who has traveled from Minnesota to New Hampshire to Florida to California (all by car).

I'd rather be driven.

I await to make a fortune or find a rich girlfriend.