Feeling like everyone around you is hard of hearing....

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I get that all the time. I will start a sentence, hear myself speak but still halfway through i realise people are not hearing, not listening, or not making out what my sentence means. Sometimes i just stop talking mid sentence and give up. Sometimes i finish talking and people ask me to repeat, it's like my voice is SO DULL that i have to scream and fake super strong intonations for people to stay onboard with what i'm telling them.I mean, i can feel the moment when they stop listening, and i give up. Why is that?
I'm not saying those people are rude, what i'm getting at is: what's wrong with the way i speak, why am i so unnoticeable that people don't even try to hear me? My voice is like background music.
I'm just irritated that's all.
I'm tired of repeating myself.
/end sulk.

Yeah, I get this a lot. I used to get it a lot more, but I think I've managed to raise my voice enough that people can hear me more often.

I get that alot, and it's sometimes a very parinful consequence. Some of them are quite likely hard of hearing. Poor hearing is rather common where I am, currently. I've had different forms of unwarented correction, victim performances, and even personal attacks because most people didn't understand me. Then they geniously turn around and wander why I barely talk at all! If they all didn't make it so emotionaly tormenting, I might actualy try more!

The worst I have had is that my Dad chewed me out till I injured myself or broke something. (Of course he blamed me each time.) I was smileing a little bit, and my mother was standing by me once, and I was talking about not being heard by people over the phone. I had just hung up! I was content, but frustrated that they tell me "I'm just doing my job." or "calm down" after a simple "hello". (of course people blame it all on me! Hear me talk before judging, I say.) She slammed her bedroom door in my face, and insisted I not chew her out. When was I chewing her out?! WHEN!?

Painful... Not fair...

Don't worry, you're not alone

Sometimes it helps to put on headphone and practice talking through a microphone so you can hear yourself as others hear you, or recording your voice. Hearing my voice recorded is terribly irritating to me, I think I sound like a stupid burned-out druggie!

You may be missing a feedback component that tells you that other people understand what you are saying. This might have something to do with why I have been too loud at times. I am not always certain that others can hear me well or understand what I'm saying.

My parents ALWAYS get mad at me and tell me they can't hear what I am saying. But when I was younger people always used to tell me that I was too loud, and I have a voice that really carries. So I don't know what the problem is now. I think maybe I mumble sometimes due to lack of confidence. It's not like anyone ever enjoys what I have to say.

I developed the habit of always speaking loudly and clearly and slowly, as if talking to a half deaf person with the cognitive level of a 4 year old. Everybody seems to hear me and never ask me to repeat. Thank goodness! I hate repeating. Though I'm sure some of them wonder if I'm mentally normal talking like that. Both of my parents and my old grandma (who lives with us) have poor hearing. I'm just used to talking loudly and slowly. I suggest lots of practice with your speech. You might never sound like a news broadcaster, but you can improve for sure.

I concur. Other’s lack of auditory sensitivity and attention to detail leads to many aggressive words in my household - especially if I have to repeat myself (and I usually have to).

Maybe i should try practicing like actors do, wih marshmallows in my mouth or something, and record myself...i do hate my voice on tape, sometimes while i speak i can't really understand the words i say , it's all jumbled in monochord uselessness. (like this sentence )
But speaking is so hard!! ! i'm supposed to be aspie, not non verbal, but i swear, sometimes talking exhausts me, my throat starts burning, even my jaws hurt from articulating for the benefit of all the deaf people around me....it seems to be getting worse and i give up a lot more than i used to in my younger years too. Can one go from verbal to non verbal? It sure feels that way, like i'm about to give up on spoken language as it becomes increasingly hard to produce.

Interesting subject.

It often seems like people either don't hear me or are ignoring me on purpose when I talk. I've often wondered why. I definitely don't speak too quietly, but my voice is rather monotone and deep and I wonder if that makes it sound less noticeable and more like background noise. It's also possible that people hear me and just choose to ignore what I say for some reason and act like I'm not there. Either way, it's annoying and at times hurtful when I try to interact and people just act like I'm not even there.

What's really annoying too is that people often comment about me being too quiet and say I should try to talk more, join conversations and be more of an active participant in social interactions, but whenever I try to socialize and talk, those same people ignore me completely or make it very difficult or pointless for me to participate. They don't only ignore me when I talk either. If a few people are standing in a circle and talking and I join in the circle, someone will usually move slightly and get in front of me with their back turned to me, like they're trying to shut me out from the circle. If I move too and join in the circle again, they move again to shut me out, and they do this repeatedly, so it's hardly just an accident or a coincidence. And then those same people complain about me not socializing enough.

I feel like I'm invisible.

When i was a child i could become invisible at will, and reappear when needed, but right now it feels like the invisibility is creeping up on me and i have a hard time fighting it...