What are your autistic peeves?

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We all have Asperger Syndrome here but not every one of us are the same... and that's why I was wondering, what some of your autistic peeves are when it comes to having Autism... you know... the things that peeve you off while having Autism, such as social interaction or sensory wise or even emotional and interaction wise in general... just anything that you find peeves you off when your autism comes into play with your daily life.

For me, I would say my mom... because she doesn't understand me enough to know me very well. I am always screaming at her because I am in the middle of something and she starts talking to me. She doesn't say, "Can I ask you something?" She just starts talking like I am going to stop what I am doing to listen to her. It bothers me more if I am listening to music.

Other things that peeve me off is crowds. I can't stand being in crowded places... I mean at Wal-mart its okay because its more scattered and people aren't really bunched together so much... but at libraries or resturaunts where I am tested to my limits than I get really nervous and can't function.

I also have problems with my voice. I know when I am yelling because it gets harder for me to speak if I talk. I have a loud voice but yet I can't hear the pitches in my voice like an NT can... so for me, I am talking a normal tone but others I am talking loud. My pet peeve here is that people tell me, "lower your voice, you're talking too loud". This causes a huge meltdown or me getting upset and going into a lockdown mode... because for me, this is hard to do because I just don't know how to lower my voice and its hard... having people tell me I'm too loud only makes it worse... and even if I tell them about the pitches and not hearing it... they just blow me off like I am lying.

Other times I can go my ways of not even knowing I have Asperger Syndrome but there are times when I do get frustrated and start screaming and carrying on about something totally minor... most of the time its because something had pissed me off earlier yet, I am melting down because I couldn't get what I wanted at walmart or something... my anger can act up in the strangest of ways.

My Autism-related pleas are those that pertain to the inability to be understood, while being marginalized in the mean time in my school; there is no respect in relation to the encompassing passions that an Asperger's person has, and with the uncalled bullying that I've been dealt with, I find the mimicking and endless jeering hard to ignore.

On a poetry website, I've been called 'senseless,' for my poetry was drivel at best to the one who decided to drift from the 'meaning' embedded within those words. The embedded lights that just flared and gnawed like darkness, and I couldn't stalk the one who called me that anymore.
I was aching to make a living out of those words,
to make a bloody living, as a teen, without friends, and constant beating of the psyche telling me to relay 'friendship,' for it is a futility never to be claimed.

Just the sickening vision of being bullied and trampled on at school, just to come home to a computer about a comment that states your insensibility. How nefarious. Not only that, sad. Sad in retrospect, from the time in happened. Sad in the futuristic viewpoint.

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Feeling constantly like an outcast - not because I don't fit in, but because society doesn't seem worth fitting into, just the fact that I see most of it as pointless.

Feeling like a rabbit caught in headlights with instructions. When people don't close doors!! !

I don't have peeves. The problems caused by my AS are more than just annoyances. The fact that I can never seem to connect with anyone due to my inability to read people or express myself in words. The fact that I unconsciously say and do things that offend others and cause them to think of me as an a**hole. My extreme sensitivity to sound and heat, both of which make me literally nauseated on a daily basis. My inability to obtain and hold down a job, forcing me to live off my parents at age 27. Constantly feeling fidgety and uncomfortable in my own skin. The fact that others are apparently unable to understand what AS is, or just don't want to understand. And the utter helplessness I feel to solve these problems. Attending therapy sure as hell isn't helping, and social security is continually uninterested in approving me for benefits.

On Friday, the people I contract with kept calling me on the phone every 15 minutes. MAJOR PEEVE.

Also, people shooting off fireworks for every little occasion, or no occasion at all, just because they have them.

Executive dysfunction. The less I have to do, the harder it is to get it all done. In practice: if I have something scheduled every hour of the day, every last thing will get done. In order. But if I have one thing to do and a week to do it, that sh** ain't NEVER gonna get done. Also, I can't recover from unexpected occurrences or changes in plan very well( often, at all).

Also, the dyspraxia. I have trouble walking down stairs, and drop things over and over again. I walk into doorjambs constantly, and will probably never drive a car.

Learning to let go of the frustration caused by these things helped me become a much happier person. I'm pretty happy in general.

Sarcasm. And jokes. I'm not very good at detecting whether something being said is sarcasm, or a joke, or just a normal comment. So in those cases, I have to ask the person, "was that a sarcastic statement?", or, "wait... you're joking, right?".

Exactly. Most of "society" seems utterly pointless. What compels people to hang out in groups at the mall boggles my mind (I understand it intellectually, but not intuitively as if from personal experience.).

Another pet peeve I have is when I am talking to a friend on facebook, like for example, I make a status to one of my friends or something and then about four or five other friends come over and start talking to him all at once... its overwhelming because then I can't get into their conversation because a large group of people, even just three or four and I get overloaded by the the amount of social interaction. I don't like being rude and telling them off because then it just makes things worse and I am becoming even MORE overwhelmed by the fact that my friends are now offended by how I handled those situations... D:

People who think they are doing me a favor by trying to "get me out of my shell" by forcing me into social interaction. They seem to think that if they force me to jump in, I'll get the hang of it and enjoy it. Of course, this never works, and then they're disappointed, and I'm stressed out and embarrassed and feeling like I need to apologize for not being someone I'm not capable of being.

Wait... you're joking, right?

Small talk

People asking a question and wanting to hear a certain answer (some NTs are peeved by this too)

People joking around when I am trying to have a serious conversation. It feels like they are not taking me seriously. To me that is just rude. (Not sure if this is autism related)

Everyone talking all at once.

Sport fans being too loud by cheering at the games.

Steam kettles and people not rushing to get them off the burner.

Tone of voice. 50 years people have been saying that my tone of voice is wrong. I still have no idea what they mean.

^ OMFG THIS.

I hate when people do that. It's like they always try to talk to me and ask questions just to get me to say something and then I get upset. If my mom isn't around... since she smokes... its even worse because people ask my questions and expect me to answer like I know how to explain it with no problem... and I get frustrated, sometimes even meltdown... until my mom comes on and knows I'm getting upset by just looking at me and she has to pull the person to the side saying that I have Autism, ADHD, a slight learning disability and anxiety... and then the person asks my mom everything she needs.

It's like, no one can't SEE that I am upset? They can't understand that I'm not a social person and pressuring me trying to get me to be social only makes it worse. I've even ignored some of my friends before and just sat there because I'm inside of my shell and I don't want to interact... it becomes an issue.

I mean I don't like being rude to people when I ignore them but sometimes my mind locks down and I don't know what to do... around new people I could stand their playing with my fingers, my mom could introduce me to her friend from our neighborhood and I just stare at them... and then walk off. It's not that I am being rude but sometimes I don't know what to do and yet if I was just sitting her thinking about it then I would... but when the moment comes... then its a big challenge because my mind locks down.

My mom doesn't tell people I have Autism when she introduces them to me... the only time she does is if my autism is causing a big enough problem that she needs to make the person aware... so that they don't throw me into a massive meltdown of tears and screaming.

I’ve always had this problem. Even worse, I’ve had people in my life (and still have them) who know that doing this will piss me off, just so that they can play the victim when I get pissed off and blow up at them.