Personal guide to social situations

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I came to realization that, in order to function at least partially normal in social situations, I need to have one person I can hang on. It was a constant through whole my life. I always looked for a person who could be my guide - in high school, at college and in workplace.
It's like, I need that particular person to be around so I could feel secure and comfortable. I need a guidance and, if I can't find it I am absolutely distressed. I missed classes on univ. because the person, friend, was not there.
That person also represents kind of a mirror and I behave- monkey see, monkey do, kinda way.
In some other social contexts I use some phrases and sentences that person uses and upon that i build some kind of communication (echolalia maybe).


So, does anybody else functions this way? Do you need to have a person that represents your comfort zone?

When I was younger, yes, I was very, very much like you. I needed someone with me who knew I was "a wacko" but didn't mind. (Someone who doesn't mind is way better than someone who doesn't care, I've found.) Now I'm married to an Aspie and we sort of hang on each other for the same reason, and failing that, we hang on to a cat or two. After 30-odd years, we definitely do seem to be each other's comfort zone, even if during the course of a day we actually interact very little, though we both work at home. I've had it mentioned to me on at least two occasions that "techies" seem to travel in pairs.

Yes, I'm like that.

Yea, but I don't rely on just one person, I behave, actand talk like mirroring my friends and the people around me. And btw do anyone had been caught/suspected doing that? I haven't, but that's probably bcos I mirror like everyone around me, not just one guy.

I used to be like that. But then I later realized that its not good to lag constantly into one person, its not healthy for either party. Its best to have multiple good friends that can support you. You can get advice from your friends but then you sorta gotta chart your own life out.

I had the situations were I claimed certain idea or phrase was mine while it was not. And they said.



True, I agree. Because, there were times I relied so heavily on others that I started pulling them out from theirs social life which led to resentment. And, for me, I became unsure of my identity.
These days, I became kinda forced to do things, sort them out by myself...it's not easy, sometimes but I try to do it because I don't want to lose another friend(s).