I hate having an average IQ

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I'm a failure at life. One of the only things that used to cheer me up was being considered smart. I recently took an IQ test and I had an average score. They never said it was an IQ test or mentioned my score, but I know that it was an IQ test. I'm devastated. I want to die.

If they didn't mention your score, how do you know it was average? Aspies often have an uneven IQ profile, so your full-scale or overall IQ might be average, but your verbal or nonverbal sub-IQ scores could be quite high. I have a full-scale IQ of 111 which is in the "high average" range, because my nonverbal IQ is 94, but my verbal IQ is 134. You can still know a lot of things even if you don't have a genius IQ; my score for fact-based knowledge was in the 91st percentile in spite of my average intelligence. You don't have to let your perception of your intelligence define you. Also remember that IQ scores can shift considerably depending on the state you're in on the day you take the test; if you're distracted, tired, or hungry, it can falsely decrease your score.

I have a vary high IQ and I am still a failure at life. Just remember what Darwin said. "It's not the strongest nor the smartest that survive, It those who are willing to adapt". So don't go blaming your "average IQ" for your failure in life. There are people with lower IQs then your and they can still succeed in life.

They said that my verbal intelligence was "in the upper average range" along with the similarities test. They said I was a bit slow at the performance tests and I was in the lower average range for the digit span test. I did have brain fog and mental fatigue that day, but I almost always have brain fog.

When I don't have brain fog I feel like a superhuman. I also become extroverted and have almost normal social skills and executive functioning when I have no brain fog. I can easily understand foreign languages when I don't have brain fog, even if I didn't study that language in a long time or only studied it for a year. Unfortunately I have brain fog 99% of the time. I wish I could get rid of my brain fog forever.

One thing I don't understand about my IQ score is my spatial skills. I love art and sculpture, but my spatial intelligence is in the lower average range. When I was using blender someone even said that I have good spatial skills.

Another factor is strategy. It is easy to get stuck in a question. The trick is to move on to the next question as fast as possible.
I have been training on the net and I raised my points 4-5 just by getting used to the procedure.
At the WAIS, I was so nervous, that I blocked several times in things, that I had done many times, - just because it was a test.

Another factor is strategy. It is easy to get stuck in a question. The trick is to move on to the next question as fast as possible.
I have been training on the net and I raised my points 4-5 just by getting used to the procedure.
At the WAIS, I was so nervous, that I blocked several times in things, that I had done many times, - only because it was a test.

High curiosity / Loving to learn things adds tremendously to the outcome of one's intelligence.

If you are alive you are not a failure at life. But I understand how you feel. You need to find something other than you IQ to base your joy in. Your IQ was given to you it's not something you did or earned. So try to find something that you can do that you can feel good about. Even if it's something super simple like if you know how to make a simple meal. Then you can grow in your knowledge and understanding of that skill by learning to make another simple meal. You need to have something in your life that makes you feel good because you are learning to achieve it not something you have no control over like your IQ. I put a ceiling tile up in my kitchen the other day. It was a super easy task, I bought the tile, measured it, cut it and put it up. It had to be cut in half to fill two half spots along the wall. Well as easy and simple as this task was, it was pretty overwhelming for me to get my head around it and it took over a month for me to do it. But once I did it I felt like the queen of the world and like I could accomplish anything.

Yesterday, my husband who is a very good mountain biker took me on a mountain bike ride. It was for beginners and since I am a very beginner, almost a first timer, it was very challenging for me. I had to walk a good bit, maybe 25 or 30 percent of the way because the obstacles were hard for me but I rode and negotiated the rocks, tree roots, fallen logs and hills that I could and I walked the ones that were too hard or too scary for me. We were with a group and even though I was the worse and slowest rider there, since I was the only first timer, everyone encouraged me because it was a ride specifically for beginners. But even though I did not ride really well, I did what I could and the sense of accomplishment was huge. I was so excited about life and about what I did and I can't wait to do it again and keep at it until I get great at it.

But I think that especially for us, since we have tendencies to be depressed a lot and to have even the small things in life be very difficult sometimes, we need to find hobbies or even little everyday type tasks where we can have these little victories. They can really do wonders for your self esteem and your confidence and your overall wellness and outlook on life. And it can be as simple as learning to make coffee or tea a new way or anything. Just find something that can give you a little boost of joy and a little joi de vivre.

There are certain things where, if you measure yourself by them, they will never be enough.

Forget the IQ. It's an attempt at applying a number to an abstract. Given if one were to take two IQ tests a day for a few months, there would in all but the rarest cases be an improvement, it's hardly a fixed number.

I found my WAIS test interesting not for the outcome, but because I could see where it reflected fairly (for good or bad), and where I was getting frazzled/tired such that I would do less well on something I had done well on not twenty minutes earlier if I took it at that point.

You're as smart as you are, not what an abstracted number would designate, and you can't be sure of your limits til you've tested them.

first off: there's nothing wrong with average, the majority of people is, by definition, average.

secondly: IQ tests are a terrible representation of intelligence, they only measure a few parts that are somewhat inportant for academics

There is something wrong with average when everything else is below average.

Don't spend your time comparing everything in your life to other people. Just be who you are and grow in whatever you can grow in at your own rate. Comparing yourself like this will only stress you. If I had compared my riding last night to everyone else's and used it as a value judgment of who I am I would have never had the courage to ride again. But I assessed where I am as a mountain biker and enjoyed every moment of what I was able to do and learn. Even when I fell it was great because I learned from it.

You are putting way too much stock into what this actually means. Your IQ score says nothing about you as a human being, and says nothing about how creative a person you are. You can still pride yourself on being smart because you probably are. I've never taken an IQ test (aside from the silly ones online) and wouldn't care one way or another what my score was if I did. You need to realize that you are and individual, that's what makes you special. I hate to sound wishy washy but it's the truth.

An IQ score can vary depending on the day or even the time of day that the test was taken. It doesn't mean that you aren't "smart." It certainly doesn't mean that you failed life. (Just words that you've already heard before - but they're true!)

There is not much of a correlation between IQ score and success in life.

It's what you do with what you have.

Don't worry DevilKisses, you are above average IQ.