Do other AS people annoy you sometimes?

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I have this coworker who annoys the heck out of me, but I also suspect that she is on the spectrum, and that she is lower functioning than I am. I want to be kind to her and help her out (she is new), but sometimes she really just rubs me the wrong way and I just want to run out of the room and get away from her. Anyone else experience this?

Things I like about her: She is always bringing little gifts like stickers or erasers to work to give to everyone in the office, and will gladly talk with anyone about virtually any topic. She is really funny and has a lot of great stories.

Things that I dislike: Sometimes she will come over to my desk and talk all afternoon even though I'm trying hard to get work done. She wants to have really awkward conversations about gay people and people of other races (we are both white) in the lunch room which I frankly want NO part of. She talks to me like I'm stupid quite often, or asks me a question, and doesn't believe my answer is correct... so I have to stop what I'm doing and I look it up for her to prove it to her. If our boss asks her to help me with something, she acts resentful, or says that it will take time away from her work. I confided in her once about an email our boss sent to me, which I wasn't sure how to interpret, and instead of giving me advice or saying words of support, she just puts up her hands and says "This isn't my problem." I think she may have told him something later that day about it too, because he came to me all angry that afternoon.

Things that make me think she's on the spectrum:
1. When an alarm goes off (even a quiet one) she covers her ears, just like me.
2. She wears sunglasses often, and hats, saying that it's always too bight for her.
3. She is obsessed with bats, and will talk about them ALL day (which is good, because she works with them for a living)
4. She HAS to take a daily run, it's not optional, it's her routine
5. If work plans change, she is slow to set a new course, and displays obvious anxiety about it, and talks about it for days later, even after everything is over.

I've only known 1 other person irl. In the beginning we were friends but now we are so different we cannot agree on anything and we aren't friends anymore.

Maybe she is on the spectrum but seems more like mild learning difficulty. But I have never met her and I'm just a random person lol

I do not really know other people on the spectrum, but i think NTs. But if the AS person would stim by humming or rubbing her/his fingers together then defiantly the AS person.

I think there's this one guy who might have it, though not sure but he curses everyone out and is always rude. He hates me the most out of everyone in our group, he's always like shut the hell up b*tch..

Not much people like this guy because of this and He may have anger issues too..

I like many kinds of people; I get annoyed at many kinds of people.

Hmm I only know family members that are on the spectrum even though we all love eachother we really don't do a whole lot of talking so I don't get too annoyed with them except when prey on pet peeves, like leaving the sponge in sink full of nasty dish water...but those things are really more of my problem and I'm learning to deal with them better.

NT's really just annoy me when they are together, one on one is fine, but you get a group of them together they have the ability to annoy me rather quick especially with the attention seeking behavior or when someone goes out of their way to try and act "ghetto" when really they live next door to you in the burbs lol

My step father has AS and he is the bane of my existence, we've had more than one fist fight. I am sure that his opinion of me is just as bad but, that being said, I tend to get on well with other aspies. there will always be a few bad apples.

How old are you? I grew up fighting with my dad a lot too but I think we are in a better spot now. After a nasty fist fight 5 years ago that resulted in the cops getting called, we have learned to give eachother a lot more space now. I don't really get angry with him anymore and I think he is finding better ways to handle his anger too. I don't think he is too happy about me moving back in the house though, I feel like a parasite here and I really hate that feeling, I sometimes wonder if he thinks I don't appreciate the help....I hope not because I really really do, if it weren't for them helping me with a pot to piss in, I don't know what I'd do.

Everybody annoys me sometimes. Including myself.

AS traits are just one possible reason to be sometimes annoying to others (one person's traits/needs/quirks are unlikely to match neatly with yours, even if you have the same "disorder").

I'm 32, he was my father's best friend and became my step father soon after his death when I was 17. I have never been able to accept him and because of this he sought to dominate and control me. I moved out of home soon after he moved in. We don't physically fight anymore (he loses...) but he still verbally attacks me fairly often.

I am currently working for my mother at her business after losing my engineering job so he is using this to try and control me again, I also feel like a parasite and he makes it clear that he thinks so too. I'll be going back to university soon so I only have to endure him for a little longer...

I find anyone who deliberately tries to annoy others annoying.
so yes, doesn't matter whom it is, I find annoying people annoying all equally.

Yeah, I agree with most of you. This is actually the first person on the spectrum that I've ever met that I feel this way about. I used to work in a museum, so I made friends with a bunch of aspie kids who came in on a regular basis to chat and nerd out with me about bugs. They were awesome. I don't mean to suggest that I dislike all other people on the spectrum.

What I mean to say is that I am annoyed by this person, and at the same time feel hypocritical, because the things about her that annoy me are things I'm not the best at myself: empathy, knowing when to stop talking, anxiety about change, etc. I feel like I understand very well how a person could struggle with these things, yet I am annoyed by her anyway. I don't want to be, but I am. It makes me wonder if this is how other people feel around me I guess, and that bothers me too.

...but really! She clips her nails EVERY DAY, right across from me in the cubicle we share.

Yes of course. They have things I would find annoying but I would fine them annoying in NTs too if they do them.
I don't find all aspis annoying but I have ran into some who appear annoying or sound annoying.

Yes. I go to a social group for people with AS/autism, and the people there annoy me sometimes. They can be as loud and social as any NT, acting silly and using current slang. I also find it annoying sometimes when they talk about their special interests, things like Pokemon and anime, because I don't find those things really interesting and it irritates me that so many Aspies have the same special interests and can fit in with each other. Probably I'm just bitter because I feel like an outcast.

Actually, I'm not around any.

Yes, they do, because they seem more or less like normal people, only more annoying, clumsy, opinionated and with less social skills.