Aspie parent with neurotypical children

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How many here are aspies with neurotypical children? How many estranged from their neurotypical children?

One of my children was neurotypical. She is in her 40s now. We are not estranged. There was an episode of estrangement during her late teens after she left home and began independent adult life and serious relationships which lasted about 18 months. I actually think this distance that she chose was beneficial for her own development. She is extremely responsible human being and I respect and admire her greatly. We have a very similar sense of humour and a love of irony (not sarcasm - which we both detest).

Hi,

I think I qualify.

I'm still waiting on my diagnosis, but I really do think I'm aspie and if the psychologists say otherwise I might go elswhere. I'm not sure the ones I saw know how to diagnose adult aspies who've worked so hard at blending in and hiding aspie traits for so long that we're suppressed. I do know that a lot of those tests made me feel like I was back in grade school. Every available online free test says I'm neurodiverse, though. So I think I'm an aspie.

My kids--I have four, and two of them are for sure NT and I think one of the others is just shy and my eldest is weird in ways other than aspie. My youngest, an NT teenager, is the easiest to talk about when it comes to "mommy might be autistic" but she's also the most obviously NT of them all. She wanted to do my nails on Mothers' Day 'cuz that's what she does with her sis, stepmom and girlfriends. For me it was just so weird.

I am estranged from my sons but not because of Asperger's Disorder. Well, maybe it is because ASD makes it hard to reconcile and make emotional repairs. But on the surface level we are estranged because I am divorced from their dad and married to someone they despise. Like I said maybe all that happened because of the social skills I lack as a probable aspie.

I planned to blog my experience with the psychologists who evaluated me for personality disorders, ASD vs. basically anything else. But now it's been about a month, I was mostly offline for three weeks and I've forgotten too much. I wish I could talk to my grown children about it, they know me better than pretty much anyone else except maybe my mom. MeMum doesn't really think I'm autistic, but she does still sometimes act like I'm around nine.

I have Asperger traits. I was/am a single parent of one neurotypical daughter. We are very close probably because we are a family of two.