How do you avoid getting obsessive over people?

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#1 issue IMO I've done this at college which got me into trouble and again at a job. Any ideas/tips? This is my one fear over a potential relationship friend or love based if they find me too "clingy?"

I don't know how to stop the desire to contact another person, but I have found ways to prevent acting on that urge. I generally don't try to contact a person more than once. If they don't get back with me, I try to let it go. I also try to have multiple sources of support so if one person is unavailable, it isn't an emergercy. This helped me a lot.

I was obsessed with both my ex girlfriends & a celebrity I have a mega huge crush on but I never got obsessed with my current girlfriend due to taking Neurontin/Gabapentin for my OCD.

I used to obsess over my crushes, but the rejection time after time just hurt too much, so I really had no choice but to stop. If we're talking in a romantic sense, think of it this way. If you're not 90% sure there's a mutual interest between you and this person, do your darnedest not to think about them, and definitely refrain from fantasizing about them. Reinforce the likelihood of rejection, and think about how much more it will hurt if you're romantically invested.

For me it kind of leads to a sort of permanent distancing from people. I never let people get close enough to be considered "clingy" to them. I can be friendly, warm and convivial, but NEVER let the other person become an obsession. I actively keep that person at arm's length. Also, trying to think logically about the situation try very hard to see it from the other person's perspective. Also, I tell myself I wouldn't like it if another person were being clingy with me. The "golden rule" treat others as you would like to be treated. Also, diversify your attention and the people you are speaking to/spending time with. You could try putting a cap on time spent regarding that person?

Stop thinking about them, gg problem solved