Help! Asking to not do something at work

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I need a little advice on how to ask someone at work if I can work on something else rather than what they want me to do.
I'm going to ask if I can help in any other way, because I'd be happy to help, I'm just terrified about what they want me to do. They basically want me to teach a few other people I work with and I can't think of a way I could possibly pull that off. I don't feel confident enough in the subject matter and I've always been bad at teaching other people even when I'm amazing at the subject in question. To make things worse, it'd be over the phone which makes me very anxious to begin with.

I guess what I need help with is how. to phrase the part about why I shouldn't teach this. Its hard to figure out because to most people the teaching should be a simple task and some people think it'd be good for me, but I've been panicking about it for a week, its making me sick. I also can't explain anything about Asperger's since I haven't been diagnosed.

If your boss is a good person, I would just tell him or her exactly what you just told us here. If your boss is a total jerk, I doubt anything you say will help.

He's not really a boss, just higher up, and he seems to be a good person, I'm just afraid he won't understand.

I'm going to try my best to ask and hopefully he'll be understanding.

I'm a bit embarrassed even though I know I shouldn't be. I work with a relative and they think I should just suck it up and do it. But then again, they also think that its hilarious that my mom thinks I could be autistic XP I do love this relative, its just they have an "everybody is a bit autistic" and "you can do anything even if its hard, just push through it" attitude. What they don't get is that I am terribly stubborn, if there was a chance I could do this, I would try. But I don't feel like something this simple is worth feeling sick over.

Well I am cheering for you that it goes well. I do hope he understands.

I am also sure your relative is a very good person as well but I do have to say that that "Everybody is a little Autistic" attitude makes me sick to my stomach. I have had many people say that to me and it really is one of the worst things you can say to an Autistic person. And I know for a fact that there are things that no matter how hard I try, I will not be able to do. I just have to accept that that is the way it is.

I think that you might be able to overcome some of your teaching issues but it is going to take time and lots of baby steps. If you want to do that that should be up to you. But to just ask you to do this is too much for you right now and it will hurt you and the people you are trying to teach.

Relatives........I understand that is not easy. You might want to find a different job.