Addicted to time and have clean home?

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I am very addicted to time. If you say you are coming to my house at 12:00 I don´t like if you change the time to 10:00 instead or change the day completely (this is the worse one), this because I mentally prepare for this days before. I can´t understand when some one says "you can come and visit when you want to, I can´t say any special date or time, just pop by", what the hell is that suppose to mean? To me it´s just as stupid as "I see you when I see you".

I also need a clean home, I can get easily frustrated if colors doesn´t match (red color is banned in my home, hate that screamy color) or if my spouse leaves clothes on the bed or the worse one, on the floor! Can´t stand messiness in the redfrigerator either.

It´s not like I´m getting upset and start yelling, it´s more like taking too much energy from me and then I get tired and cranky.

Anyone who can relate to this or maybe it´s just me?

(First time commenting very new here) first off I just realized I may have something special going on. I'm hoping to get a better understanding by talking to everyone here. My so works a lot and doesn't help clean and I have 4 kids so my house is never clean and it drives me insane. I say a lot I'm going to run away. Almost always if I'm in a bad mod it's because my house is a mess. I tell them if it's messy then my mind feels messy. (Maybe over stimulated.) I'm really really knew to what life may be like. If anyone finds I may not have anything going on just kindly say so. Though my place isn't organized as much as I'd like it really bothers me. I'd rather miss holidays and important stuff to just stay home and clean house. I spent so much time watching YouTube and reading about how to keep a house clean. I've spoke to housekeepers but the thought of a stranger coming here freaks me out!! I hate company especially one who's going to see my messes. To the nt person my house is prob "normal" of one with 4 kids 1 spouse and as of yesterday 2 dogs instead of 4 but idc it drives me insane. I can sit and cry all day. I'm always setting timers and looking st the time and get anxiety watching the clock for something coming up like company coming or an afternoon dr appt. though it's hard to get around and go to an am appt afternoon ones seem to throw me off. I love having no where to go, no sports, no lo in school, I hate that I feel this way. Idk if I go through what your referring to I just saw the clean house thing and had to read and make an account to be able to reply. I took that one test and got a 35 I think and the one you score in the 100s I need to retake bc I can't find my screen shot of my score. I get angry about messes to then I get sad because I got angry.

I can't maintain a schedule without a roommate or a regular job to force me to eat and sleep when it's "time" instead of when I'm at a good place to pause my work. I prefer messy rooms to ones where I can't see the things I'm looking for and can't remember where they are. I have many small things. When I have to be on time for something, I can prepare for days and still not be able to show up well rested.

My partner (NT) is similar to the OP. He lines things up in the fridge and faces them all the right way. Ha, I don't have time to think of that! I just pile everything in the fridge, and move on. But it doesn't cause arguments or anything, and neither of us get annoyed with each other over it. It's just the way it is.

I like our bed to be made as soon as we're both up, no matter what, but that is the only thing my partner doesn't care to do. I do like a made bed.

We both like lids to be closed, like on pens or shampoo bottles. Some people leave the lid open on washing-up liquid bottles, and that drives us both mad.

I'd be a lot tidier if I'd been taught anything about how to organize. I was 40 before I saw that someone had made a list of their file folders. I have a very hard time deciding how to file things. Putting it away, I may notice the colour most, but when I want it, it will be because of the shape, material, function or something else. Piles of paper that stay in chronological order of arrival are pretty easy to search. Recently, I've stopped beating myself up over lack of foresight if I put something away and then take it out again within hours.

Me too. I have a brother-in-law who just turns up once a year or so without warning and it does my head in! When I was younger, if I was due to meet friends at a pub at a certain time and they weren't there I would get really upset. A break in an expected routine is horrible and the perpetrators should be punished!


I'm not so bad about mess however, Executive functioning issues mean that I need things in the place where they belong. If I can't find something because it's not where it should be, I get upset. If I'm asked where a specific object, from a piece of paperwork to a book, is in my house, I know exactly where it is... unless someone has moved it


Me too.


No, it's not just you

I knew an NT who told me about her ex. I suspect he is a fellow aspie, and she took her frustrations out on me, too. Anyway, when she was very busy with a new baby and he was still studying, she moved a pile of his papers and the marriage only went downhill from there.

So is this stuff possibly sensory stuff/asd or personality or both? Idk like other poster, how to organize for crap. I read about it and watch organizing videos and clean 24/7 but house is never clean and it drives me super angry. I'm not obsessive about.. well ok, if I'm going to hang clothes up they have to be hung grouped together, things need to be done a certain way and maybe that's why I can't keep stuff done. I've never felt "OCD" just for whatever reason a messy house drives me crazy. I can't keep up with a schedule or calendar. I wish I was more organized so bad! I wish this s**t didn't bother me either. I wish I was okay with people and would allow a housekeeper in my home. I prepare days ahead too and never make it anywhere on time. May 11th I'm supposed to spend $1800 and the day with a psychiatrist maybe I'll get some answers. On that Aspie quiz I got 171 Aspie and NA 39. Anyone every diagnosed as an adult? My wonder is, how did I go all these years possibly undiagnosed? How did people not know? Parents weren't parenting though so maybe that's how?