I hate being faced with impossibilities

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I'm becoming increasingly frustrated now with wanting to do something, getting excited, planning it all out to be thrown face to face with that one thing that decides right there and then that what i want is just never going to happen.

So i've decided that I would like to steer my career towards entomology. Yes, i know a lot of work will be involved, and yes i'm worried about being able to get through uni. So on the off-chance decided to look into the type of jobs available in this career and I spot one that doesn't require any degrees or such. Fantastic! So i message the person in the application details, explain that I have no experience professional wise, but i have the interest in the subject and the enthusiasm/ambition to learn etc... only to have the guy message back to let me know the position is in another city. It'd take me 3hrs to commute there. So, massive let down since positions like that don't come around very often and I don't doubt my ability to do the role despite my lack of experience.

But its like that with frickin everything! I want to do something, i put a lot of planning into it and then *poof* it disintegrates into nothingness due to a lack of skill, or a lack of money. It's so hard to muster up any kind of enthusiasm for anything when at the end of the day, i'm just incapable. I think it's mainly a mix of bad organisation skills and ridiculously high ambition that sets me on this spiralling path of failure in everything i try and do.

Once or twice, i could put it down to a fluke, but when it's something that continuously pulls me down time after time there's no doubt that i'm doing something wrong with my methods

Would it be worth considering moving if you applied for the job and got it?

well, not really.

bf goes to uni in huddersfield (opposite direction) and i doubt i'd be able to on my own as I wont be able to support bills and rent, plus my credit history will make it extremely difficult to find somewhere to live.

In all seriousness, I spend far too much time trying to find solutions to impossible situations just so I can do what it is i want to do that i'm just fed up of doing things that way. It must be something i'm doing wrong, or I need to be able to train myself to only go after obtainable goals :/

I see what your saying, that's a shame.

Maybe, you would save time and energy by first assessing the possibilities and analysing the constraints, before planning or acting.

In particular for a job, it is important first to assess if your profile correspond to the requirements, and if you can reach the workplace... before applying.

3 hours (6 in both directions) is not that long, you could try to commute every day without moving there. It's possible, I'm telling this from my own experience, it just depends on your priorities. Remember, if it's really your dream job you can do everything!

^ You must be kidding. No-one can do a full day's work on top of 6 hours of daily travel, can they? How would you even survive that?