My social life is miserable and doomed.

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I am 21 years old and studying at university.

I keep making social mistakes. I will often be unable to maintain eye contact and be unable to provide any input to a conversation, especially in a group. I will often come up with dark and inappropriate remarks that are often without context. I seem to have a degree of control over this however if it is difficult and some comments might still slip through.

When I successfully establish a relation to a person, I will often get doubts and paranoid feelings & thoughts regarding this person leading to me behaving erratically. I will now demonstrate some of the scenarios I have been presented with and failed miserably:

Example 1

If a person sends a solutons paper to someone but not me, even though we work together, I will start assuming this person has something against me or simply does not like me. I will thus start to have some contempt against this person.

Example 2

If someone starts smiling when looking at me, or whisper/talk about a subject with another person only to suddenly divert his or hers attention to me, I will interpret that as a hostile gesture and I will experience paranoia regarding these persons.

Example 3

If me, my friend and someone else I have an interest in (not sexually) are together and we are on our way home and this person decides to take a longer route simply to avoid me after separating from my friend, I will almost get a breakdown of anger.

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To sum it up, my social abilities are severely lacking and my paranoia is digging me a grave.

Assume all of your paranoid suspicions are true, accept the situation and then begin to work on trying to turn it around. People I managed to make friends with would always tell me that they thought I was aloof and totally unapproachable when they first came into contact with me. People's opinions of you can be changed.

Uh, dude, look at your second paragraph. Thats why people do that. Being angry about it is dumb unless more people are clued in to why you act. People are woke-r about this nowadays; as long as you start owning it and making it your own, people will be just fine wif who u are