Has your social skills improved?

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My social skills used to be non-existent until I became 21. That was the age, I have gotten more chances to be social so it was like practice and it worked. I can finally hold a conversation but of course, it's not perfect and it probably will never be perfect. And I am content with that, I am just glad I can actually hold a conversation.

Technically yes, but I still don't socially function like a 30 year-old at all, more like a kid, but I guess it's far better than it was when I was actually a kid.

Compared to that pathetically awkward, creepy confused teenager who had no idea how to interact with people, absolutely.

But it was a very long, hard slog of failure after failure after mild success after failure. I'm stubborn, and had it in my mind that if I just kept trying (think Edisons efforts to create a working light bulb) that I'd finally understand what most others seemed born with.

It wasn't until about age 30 that I think I had built up enough trial, error and correction cycles of learning that I began to be flexible enough in my social responses to not make a fool of myself and be accepted and respected by people.

I'm still awkward socially, but I think I've crossed the "good enough" line.

Hardly, I still spend a lot of energy avoiding contact.

It might appear so, but that id because thr older I got the more ibteractionn I would have in "Professional" contexts where there ate conventions of business courtesu, professional courtesy, need to convey information and get a job done, rather than vague "Social" stuff just to make connnections, acwuaintenshipd etc dometimes in noisy situatiobs which do not help.

Mine improved up to about my mid-thirties, and since then I think I've regressed.
I started getting too burnt-out to maintain the effort needed. And after a while I stopped caring so much about how I came across.

Mine is more of a rollercoaster on how much of my social skills are mainly dependent on my current executive function level for the hour/day/week.

It is as if I already do have higher levels of social skills and huge accumulation of quality data, underneath the lack of ability performing the prerequisites of the more basic ones.
If my EF regresses, so do social skills and other important stuff, my past 'experiences' would rendered irrelevant.

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you can't measure social skills

the older i get the fewer failures i have

the older i get the fewer successes i get


it's like, the best case scenario is, whooptie do

the worst case scenario is, subject to imagination

something might "help" me one dollar.

someone might shoot me with a gun


risk versus reward

cost benefit analysis


f**k mister redelings

Mine have probably got worse because I've got better at avoiding people.

Sometimes nowadays I look at people when they are talking to me.

Absolutely. I mean, if my skills were the same now that they were, say, 10 years ago, there is absolutely no way I would have a job.

My social skills seem to vary a large degree to how familiar I am with the topic.

I have much better "social skills" than I did when I was younger.

It partially depends on motivation.

It's also good to consider that you like to be treated decently----so why not treat people decently.