Talking to People Who Are Far Away

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I hate yelling, and I hate when other people yell. I work in a very loud work environment, a school, (although it's quiet now for obvious reasons) and teachers like to shout at you to get your attention while you are all the way at the other end of the hallway. I have email, a walkie and a ticket system. I've been begging them to use the ticket system for the past 3 years, but they prefer knocking on my door or shouting at me from far away to get my attention. I have to decide whether I want to shout back or awkwardly walk all the way so I can speak normally. It's very annoying.

When I shout at people to get their attention, which I try to avoid doing, they always ignore me for some reason. Yesterday a truck driver decided to park in the middle of the one way bus loop blocking the exit, I guess I could have gone the other way but I don't like going the wrong way on one way roads. I waited to see if he would move but he wasn't moving. He walked out of his truck and I rolled down the window and tried to get his attention, asking if I had room to squeeze through, he looked at me and he just walked away. I can't tell if he was being rude, if my voice was too low or if I was just doing it incorrectly, but it happens often enough that I wonder if it's something I'm doing wrong.

I find having to keep 2 metres away from people hard when talking to them, as no matter how hard I try I still automatically step close so that I can hear better. I'm not deaf enough to require hearing aids but my hearing is below average and I need to be about half a metre away to be able to talk comfortably to someone. For me 2 metres is too far.

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I don't like raising my voice either. I guess it's because I don't like it when other people raise theirs, and I always have this "do as you would be done by" thing going on whether it works or not. I suppose I don't like people raising their voices because it shatters my focus. It also runs in the family, a sense of disapproval about loud, uncivilised people who think what they have to say is so important that they're happy to drown everybody else out and generally add to the noise pollution. A gentleman or lady doesn't shout unless there's a very good reason indeed. At least that's the notion I was brought up with, and I still feel it to be right, though objectively I can see both sides of the coin.

It causes problems of course, because there are times when raising my voice is the only convenient way to make myself heard. Like when they're using a noisy tap at the sink. Wouldn't be so bad if my short-term memory was better, but as it is, if I don't say a thing immediately, I've forgotten all about it within a minute unless I deliberately hold it in my mind, in which case I can't do much else till I've spat it out.

Having to raise my voice can be very annoying. My default is to speak somewhat quietly, so even people close to me usually ask me to speak up. For some reason it seems like it's harder to talk whenever I have to raise my voice and I mess up a lot more, but that might just be because it takes me a lot of focus to communicate properly and speaking louder steals some of that focus from me.

I am made uncomfortable by loud boisterousness, and I am also uncomfortable by this drawing social attention. There can also be issues with processing the information.

I dislike projecting my voice if I am not specifically in some kind of performance context. In many cases, I have been accused of mumbling or speaking too quietly.