Can you help me with this social situation?

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Im a 26 y/0 female on the autism spectrum. Im pretty high functioning, but am god awful at social skills, especially around new people. My boyfriend of 5 years and I live together and yesterday a friend of his from college out of state came over for the weekend. This is my first time meeting him. He's a gamer like my boyfriend. Currently their off for the day at a theme park. (I didn't want to go and they need their bro time)

When I meet new people for the first time I know your supposed to do small talk which I did, (the usual where are you from what do you do for work that sort of thing) I feel like I was awkward about it and did a bit too much. I didn't do as much small talk as I would lets say at a Christmas party, but everyone knows gamers don't really like to talk much.

When they get back should I say "sorry if I was awkward yesterday, Im on the autism spectrum and am god awful at social skills" I feel like either it would just make it worse, or he'd be like "that explains a lot" and be a bit more understanding. I think it would make it awkward tho.. What should I do? Help!

Etiquette12 mins ago

An apology probably isn't needed. You could text your boyfriend to ask if his friend was annoyed or if you asked too many questions. He might be able to put your mind at ease.

Don’t say anything.

They probably had too much fun to notice any “awkwardness” in you.

I probably wouldn't say anything as if it was me, imo.

Would assume he isn't around very often and considering it's a fairly lengthy time you and your partner have been together it would likely come up if the said friend asked your partner he would totally not need an xplanation anyhow as a good friend to my understanding should be respectful and not ask or he'd be chilled with the explaination should it have been required anyhow. I'm very selective with telling peopl e and my autism and actually never told my closest of friends because I'm scared they'd judge me even after 20yrs. I am certain I can say they might know except I'm not game to ask cause then I'd be completely isolated which I am anyway. So upon saying that I've just realised something.. though I hope that helps you in your decision.

Am pretty sure if you do not mention it , it will go un noticed ...