Ok, why are people like this?

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People give me crud for being a good boy and being nice to people, then I be the opposite, then the people give me crud for that!! I mean what the heck?

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I have always wondered that myself. I finally had to decide that I was the only person I had to be true to and I started living my life the way I was comfortable. Because of these decisions my huband and I have virtually been disowned by our families but we have been able to get along with each other better.

The big issue is that people just need to accept each other and not try to change each other.

There's two sides to every story, as well as everything in between. There's nothing you can do about it I'm afraid. That's life.

I don't know what to say. I guess it really depends on the situation, EvilWalks.

I think people just want complete control over you. The fact that you have the audacity to separate yourself from group-thinking terrifies them to the point they'd rather you act in a negative manner under their coercion than show altruism on your own terms. If you're impervious to other's dictates, you're perceived not only as a potential security risk, but a threat to all of the pre-conceived notions that've been drilled in their psyche since childhood. The possibility that beliefs they hold sacred aren't so sacred after all might force them to alter their lifestyle, something that is, in the best mental state, ego shattering.

Yeah, what she said.

I don't get crud really. I just get smiles from nice ol' ladies when I've opened the door for them and let them go first. Apparently, for my age, such an act is quite unusual and unexpected. (I like proving peoples' initial conceptions of me totally wrong )

That's called a "no win situation." Very common. Some people just like to give other people a hard time, not matter what they do.

I like being nice to people, but I sure hate it when people perceive me to be better than other people; I hate it when people think me to be Ms. Perfect, or the favored person rather than a nice one. I'll just continue to be nice to people, because I believe that in order to make a friend you must be one as well, and being angry at everything makes one even more withdrawn, and it makes people really stressed out, and almost no one likes being stressed. I also believe that when you are in need of something, if you be nice to people, some would be more likely to give you a helping hand. I also understand that not all people will be as nice in return; my father had to explain that to me sometimes, because I wouldn't know why some people didn't treat me better or act nicer to me when I would be nice to them. Life on earth goes on, doesn't it?

I also have a perseveration on courtesy. --Well, more a perseveration of people who lack it. They infuriate me to no ends.

You're damned if you do, and you're damned if you don't.

That's the way life works with these idiots called "people".

Do whatever you feel more comfortable doing in the situation. If you are in the situation of