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07 Jan 2008, 5:30 pm

Where do you go meeting people who appreciate someone who is not one of the herd, doesn't engage in hypocrisy and social games and politics, and has a critical attitude towards the "appropriate", "acceptable", etc.?


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07 Jan 2008, 5:32 pm

If you're religious, try a place of worship. If you have certain interests, try finding an outlet where there are people who have those same interests, etc.


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07 Jan 2008, 6:14 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
If you're religious, try a place of worship. If you have certain interests, try finding an outlet where there are people who have those same interests, etc.


Mabe ou didn't read the question. :roll:



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07 Jan 2008, 6:16 pm

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Where do you go meeting people who appreciate someone who is not one of the herd, doesn't engage in hypocrisy and social games and politics, and has a critical attitude towards the "appropriate", "acceptable", etc.?


Punk club.

I sometimes wonder how many of my old punk and psychobilly friends had AS. Looking back, I think that quite a few of them might have had it.


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07 Jan 2008, 8:46 pm

Anywhere where the rejects go. The Intellectual Fringe comes to mind. Wherever the homeless/unemployed/hippie/anarchist people hang out. Those aren't guarantees, but I think you'll find more acceptance with the people who are also seeking it out.


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07 Jan 2008, 8:53 pm

Greentea wrote:
Where do you go meeting people who appreciate someone who is not one of the herd, doesn't engage in hypocrisy and social games and politics, and has a critical attitude towards the "appropriate", "acceptable", etc.?


In my experience these are only chance happenings, and come only whenever they feel like it. Random kid you happened to talk to at school who you had no idea was so cool, random dude at a coffee shop, or some friend of a friend of a friend. I've just had to sit and wait patiently for these types of people. It's worth the wait though.


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07 Jan 2008, 8:57 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
If you're religious, try a place of worship. If you have certain interests, try finding an outlet where there are people who have those same interests, etc.


lol! Tim, buddy! Read her location...... 8) she asks, Not one of the herd, and you say church.. rolfmao! :wink:


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07 Jan 2008, 8:59 pm

I agree that it is part random, but I also agree that if you hang out at places where open-minded people (hippies, free thinking academics, etc.) tend to be, you will have better than average luck... it's still a crap shoot though. Most people are not open-minded or accepting, so keep that in mind if you find yourself striking out a lot. Stick with it, and you'll find good people eventually.



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07 Jan 2008, 9:11 pm

Greentea wrote:
Where do you go meeting people who appreciate someone who is not one of the herd, doesn't engage in hypocrisy and social games and politics, and has a critical attitude towards the "appropriate", "acceptable", etc.?

Maybe libraries ? Art galleries, independent businesses (bookstores, movie theater/rental places, etc.) ? The grocery store at 3 a.m. (when store is less busy)? Unusual places where (or times when) people (employees & customers) are allowed to show imperfection, personality & idiosyncrasies.

Of course, I can't be certain I'm this sort of person-but I'd say the problem is that we're each hiding out (more or less) in our own separate homes-so there isn't anywhere public to find introverted yet interactive people. I can't cope with being social in groups or surrounded by crowd & stay home most of the time. Seems one has to acquire necessary level of toughness/fakeness/hard shell to even go out in public & deal with strangers regularly, so the people who can't handle doing that aren't even visible-except online...

Though any place one goes, off or online, there's no guarantee the people there will have these behaviors/attitudes. Plus, there's no absolute unanimity amongst all individuals as to definition of these qualities (which you seek)-each person subjectively views these as present or absent in self or others.


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07 Jan 2008, 10:58 pm

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Where do you go meeting people who appreciate someone who is not one of the herd, doesn't engage in hypocrisy and social games and politics, and has a critical attitude towards the "appropriate", "acceptable", etc.?


You do pick the hard ones. If you find it let me know. I do not think there would be any humans there.

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08 Jan 2008, 12:56 am

My uni campus was pretty good for those things.


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10 Jan 2008, 3:19 pm

I've been looking for many years, no luck yet...


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