WurdBendur wrote:
First I would point out that that's a very strong definition of fanboy. I don't think the worship of a product is necessarily sexualized by most.
I think Neanthumain is using hyperbole to express disdain and sarcasm here. I would hazard to guess he feels threatened by fandom for some reason. Ether that or he's having a mild psychotic break.
No, fandom is not based on some perverse need of sexual self-gratification, but on people's need to be part of a community. We live in a society where feeling like we're connected with another person is increasingly frustrating, even for "normal" people. Shared interests help to facilitate that sense of belonging and social validation, and that people become so rabid about it shows how profound their need is.
Now fan fiction is another phenomenon that stems from ordinary fandom - that is when people have a frustrated sense of being heard and appreciated by the community.
We may personally find fandom obnoxious in some ways, but I think as Aspies and auties we can at least sympathize.
And to answer Neant's original question: I've never qualified as a real fangirl, methinks, because I am an Aspie. My obsessions are based in the neurological quality of AS and not in some psychological need. I do admit that I have similar psychological and emotional needs, but I do not find fandom a complimentary way to fulfill those needs, because the inherently different nature of my obsessions tends to make me feel alienated by the driving forces of fandom, if that makes sense.