Do you hate going to other peoples houses?

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When I was little I used to hate going to other peoples houses, especially if it meant staying there overnight. As I got older it started getting worse, I'd get that horrible sinking feeling every time my Mum mentioned staying at someones house. People used to see me as being rude because I didnt exactly hide the fact I didnt like being there.

Luckily I'm now old enough to stay at home on my own, and even though I get ''stick'' for not visiting the family I'm much happier now than when I was little

Just one thing that was brought up the other day which scared me - Christmas
This year my Mum will be going over to my Nans and she wants me to go aswell
I'm really worried because I dont think I'll be able to handle being there but at the same time the other people will be thinking it's because I dont like being around them when thats not the case at all. The reason is I cant seem to be in other peoples houses when it means being there for more than say 15 minutes
I know it sounds silly but it's only September and I'm already starting to get that sinking feeling when thinking about Christmas

Does anyone else get this when it comes to other peoples houses?

Noa x

Unfamiliar territory makes me a bit nervous, as do situations in which I'm expected to be social. It's been many years since I've gone to someone's home for the first time, so I'm not even sure how I'd react. I don't get out much, and definitely prefer it that way.

One reason I don't like other people's homes is sensory. I have to deal with colors, sounds, smells, and such that I would prefer never to experience. Walls painted red, clocks ticking away or lights buzzing above, and odors of all sorts. Combine that with people who know each other, and I get very quiet very quickly, and very tired very quickly.

I was just talking to a friend about how I liked his place because he has made virtually no changes to it in the past 10 years. I told him that I appreciate the constancy of it, the stability and predictability of it. My mother's home, by contrast, changes by the month, which I find disconcerting.

Finally, food. Most people serve food when you visit their homes, and most of what is served does not fit my idea of food, nor is it served in the time or manner that I eat. So I have to somehow politely bow out of actually having anything more than a glass or water or cup of tea.

At least I'm fortunate in that my family doesn't do Christmas.

I don't hate it.

Yes. I always feel nervous because a lot of my friends' parents have a lot of rather fussy-sounding "house rules", such as no food and drink in bedrooms and no shoes to be worn in the house. These rules are probably perfectly normal, but they are foreign to me because my mother has never enforced rules such as these in our house.

And also, I often get the impression that other kids' parents think I'm a bad influence. I can see why they might think this, I guess, because I can seem quite loud at times (at other times, however, people think I'm too quiet, but that's another story). The assumption that I'm popular enough for anyone to be "influenced" by my behaviour is amusingly erroneous.

Yes!! !

Thanx for replying guys, at least I know I'm not alone on this

I do, especially if it's someone I don't talk to on a regular basis, or someone I don't know. One thing I'll never do (unless I'm wasted beyond control) is sleep over. I need to be in my comfort zone when I'm going to bed and when I'm waking up.

I hate it, especially when it's an unfamiliar house. Or worse, an unfamiliar and cluttered house full of unfamiliar people. I've never felt totally comfortable in other people's homes. I feel awkward and out of place.

and the smells! not necessarily a bad odor but different, dandruff and dust mites and dinners of unfamiliar food penetrating the rugs and drapes. Chairs too hard and unfamiliar in their contours, beds. . shudder. . .too stiff or sheets too harsh. Just the wrong oxygen in the room. and all their thoughts sunk into the woodwork.

you can't take me anywhere. I finally got a nice van with a double bed in back that I fixed up nice and can drive to where ever I need to go and crash (it even has a great little flushable toilet, and I can make coffee and oatmeal for breakfast!) I smile when I go places now, because I always have my own little bit of home with me.

I don't mind going to other peoples' houses, unless they don't have carpet or places to sit/lay down. I can't imagine having to stay somewhere that had neither of these...I would freak out.

I start to get a bit antsy if I'm there for too long, though. I'll start pacing around, or I'll find a hiding place where nobody else is, distract myself with my Gameboy for a while. Wish I could just go home and roll around on my bed

I hate when I visit friends who live in apartments or whatever, though. I always get told to stop goofing around and making so much noise

Oh man I totally hate going to other people's houses! When I was younger and had a few friends, I would always invite them over to my place because I am extremely uncomfortable in other people's houses. Especially if their family is around...

Some other people brought up clutter and smell which is a good point. Other people's houses smell and feel differently than mine and I've been told that my(my parent's) house was unhumanly clean and its normal to have clutter around. But it's not what I'm used to and taints my opinion of the house unfavorably.

But it's more than just that. It has to do with it not being 'my' territory and I don't know how to act and I am terrified of doing something wrong or overstepping my bounds. I would never ever go into anyone else's fridge looking for a snack or even ask someone else for one. I'm just really obsessive about 'rules' and things I suppose. Most people don't seem to care too much.

I quite like it. But I do get nervous before hand incase I've got the wrong day or time and I kind of go paranoid about it, but once I get there I like it.
Somebody mentioned the smell of other people's houses, that's another thing I enjoy too, the smell of other people's houses makes me feel cosy and comfortable.

I'm generally okay with it, but my friends always make fun of how stiff and awkward I get.

I don't particularly mind going to other peoples houses but the thing i don't like is that everyone is talking and i always feel that im left out.

I don't particularly mind going to other peoples houses but the thing i don't like is that everyone is talking and i always feel that im left out.

Only if there's going to be people there.