Loosing Interest in Women

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Marriage doesn't include a happy-warranty, nor does life. Those set-up imaginairies, how did hollywood suck, are the parasites in thoughtpaterns.
Happiness, what's that ? A job well done ? Respect ? Holding hands on a rainbow ?
And oddly, there's only one winner in divorcing; the state (needs taxes)! !

I dunno, baldly assuming every therapist out there is worth your time \and on top of that, autism/ what are you defending mate ?

I think that I can perfectly understand your statement, and I respect where you stand.

It's only ethical to see things this way, famous German philosopher Kant said something like:
"I love my wife because she is my wife!"

Oh, how many people misunderstand that!

They thought that he was taking about her as of property, or from patriarchal point of view while he was just following his moral and ethical code!

But.

We mustn't blind ourselves to reality of our surrounding.

Sometimes following blindly principles without checking what actual consequences are can be very harmful to us and to others. And we do not want to cause any harm, right?

I'm divorced for years now, and I don’t think I'll be in intimate relationship ever again, but divorce was only way to save us both from greater harm.

In my case was very hard to solve problems trough conversation - I didn’t know I'm Aspie, I thought I'm just different, and she didn’t told me she is schizophrenic.

Perfect opposite of perfect marriage

And still, I think that women are most magnificent beings on this planet

You are hurting yourself and your wife. Is that fair, it is not. You were in love once, and what a fantastic feeling that is. But now those feeling have changed, and worse, you're actively hating her. That is soul destroying, for you and the woman you loved. It's not fair, and it's not right.

I find women are the most desirable and attractive things I've ever beheld. But I've also gotten to know a couple of them, and they are not the most desirable and attractive personalities. Women can be very mean, spiteful and downright vicious.

They are only pretty on the outside to attract males, which works a treat. Both men and women can be nasty and bitter. The challenge is to recognize this early and run for the hills. Easier said than done I know. Experience is always after the fact

But, do yourself and your wife a favor and get out, move on, learn from your mistakes, and try try again.

Oh, see I had nothing like that when I was growing up, and still don't. Been broke my whole life, so no attention from the women folk. Which is fine, as gold diggers don't really do anything for me. Rather just hire an escort whenever I have the cash flow. So jealous of places like Europe that have cheap escorts. But then again, with the amount of rapefugees flooding that place, maybe it's for the best....

Oh yeah, Western Civilization is a f*cking cesspool. Sometimes I wish Russia/China would start off the nukes for a do over.

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Sounds like you ended up with a BPD (borderline personality disordered) wife.
I know it can be hard to break things off, because I'm sure you had some positive memories.

I'm involved with a BPD girl myself. She blamed everything on me, and took no responsibility for her own actions, for years. She got a lot better over time, though. I learned more about the disorder and how to deal with it, and not get sucked in to a s**t spiral of negativity.

Of course, I'm not perfect either. Neither are you. Neither is anyone.

I know when a relationship fails, sex is the first thing to go. It often leads to built up tension and resentment over time on both parties. Which then makes the initiation of sex even harder.

Why not try this? One last ditch effort to do something romantic. Take her on a picnic, or play mini golf, or do some activity where you are both mutually involved. Go Karting? Laser Tag? A place like Dave and Busters, which is an adult chucky cheese that serves booze, and great food, and has all the aforementioned games. Bowling, hiking. I know it sounds kind of childish, but I personally find these activities fun, and I think 99% of people do too. They're great bonding experiences.

There is also a herb, called Kratom, which is not a drug, but a very healthy tea that generally lifts your mood, and allows you to connect with people on an intimate level. I recommend it for both of you. It does taste extremely bitter, but it's good for you. It's called Kratom.

Sometimes you just have to pull out a knife, cut the tension, and just hold her in your arms, and both of you need to remember why you fell in love in the first place.

Then you can rebuild from there. It's never too late.

Does she "like what she ordered"? And if not, does she stoically "eat it, no matter how messed up it is"?

Got kids? Scared to leave them with what sounds like quite an unpleasant person?

We are not all your wife. My father did some pretty horrible things, but how unjust would that be if I judged all men by him? Extremely unjust I think. Judge people as individuals, not groups.

I do not hate women. I do not hate anyone. I think, I am disenchanted.
I now see them like men. Kinda gross, but sometimes interesting.

Perhaps, I held females up way too high. I felt like they had the power to make Heaven out of Earth and after I saw one turn my world into Hell, I got hurt. That deep kind of hurt. It broke my desire to be with them. I don't want to be around anybody every single day of my life anyway. It is no longer worth the risk. My wife can be great fun some days but I never know when she is going to turn against me, or why, and it destroys me.

But, I do not think that she is the issue. I am begining to realize just how equal all life is. I see females and males almost the same in Humans as with other animals. Thinking of my life without that desire and joy is very depressing. There is not even that fantasy of bliss. Nothing. Both men and women are just a bunch of hairy, stinky beasts walking around messing with everything.

Maybe your wife has something like borderline personality disorder? I knew a guy who had it and what he did sounds like what your wife does. You should read up on it.