The ironies of life

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Lissa, thank you for your kind words.

You know those people who decide to do things, make grand dramatic statements, full of good intentions, know that they can easily just walk away from their obsessions - oh yes, easy peasy, piece of cake? They've just got to know when they're beat, that's all. Of course, I could leave anytime, oh yes, definitely. But this morning...someone's pinched my car keys! And I've got a flat tyre. Thelma says she can't go this weekend after all...maybe next weekend. Yes, that's it, next weekend. Probably. Not.

I find I'm just not strong enough to kill this obsession. There has to be a way of finding a balance, between the obsession and other things we need to do. Walking away from it ~ it's not possible, I've discovered anyway. I simply cannot do it. It just makes the obsession stronger. Arrrggg (primal scream) What to do, what to do? Thinking.

Starr - I'm in the same damned boat.
I even feel so much happier when I'm
not online. But an addiction is just that,
and it's not easy to break on your own.

mmm it gets addictive but i just got fed up with it and went out for a day or so and stayed out for a while. later at home i was online, which was scary (MUST STAY AWAY FROM WP), but i was not tempted to look in here. in fact i had a repulsion for the place. it worked. you CAN leave! and come back! YOU ARE IN CONTROL. think repulsion (the opposite of attraction).

try it.

Its the people I am addicted to, the community, not sitting in front of the damned computer and typing.

If I could go down to the local Starbucks and get the same thing, I would be there, too.

Merle

I have such a black or white brain. I joined and was obsessed with this place for a few months, then my life changed and I didn't log on for at least 6 months - not even once.

Then things changed, I looked in here on a whim, and came back. Don't understand it.
I have so many things to do, I no longer have the leisure of hanging out like I used to.
I do have free time, however, and now I have to decide between here and the stack of awesome books I just picked up at my university library.

But back to the black/white thing - I think that's part of it for some of us. If we're here, we want to be here, be involved, know what's going on, see if somebody replied to our thoughtful post, see if a certain someone is still really depressed, if two other people are really making it in cyberspace, etc. I would say that as part of our AS there's a certain tendency to perseverate, and not to be too hard on ourselves when we do. If something REALLY needs to get done, you'll do it, right?

So my trick is to allow myself parameters if my schedule is tight. For instance, before I log on in the morning at say, 7 something, that I need to be off at 9am. I have a clock on my screen, so when it's 9, I log off. It works for me.

That's a great idea!
I came up with a new drink the other day, "Aylissa's Paradise Special": Vodka, rainwater and raspberries.
You might like it
and your boys might like my girls

Bazza, If you do make it to Alberta, or anywhere in Canada, have a bloody Caesar. Compare that to a Bloody Mary. Much more Zing!

2010, you say?
A tour around the world meeting aspies is a fabulous idea.
I should warn you that, although I welcome anybody to visit me here in paradise, I am a crappy tour guide. I will spend the entire day in the house if I feel like it, even if a visitor is dying to go to the beach. Or I'll think hiking 10 miles to see lava flowing is a much better way to spend the day than going tourist shopping.