If you could talk to yourself when you were a kid...

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As a child I found it nearly impossible to pretend. Other kids in prep donned costumes and were firemen, police officers, ballerinas, etc. I found this behaviour to be strange.

As an adult I sometimes dream of where I would prefer to be and what I would prefer to be doing. Limited to a mental construct which is not even a shadow of reality. Make-believe. To visualize a desired reality and utilize ones entire self through determination to move the current reality towards the desired reality. Relatively easy when one desires to be the kindergarten's resident astronaut at the age of five. Relatively difficult to become a person that requires years of preparation that has not taken place. Every moment is a new beginning.

Should the fantasy of speaking to one's former self at an early age appeal, then you may wish to explore a little further. The self which was a child is not separate from your present self. You are an extension of that frightened and confused child that cries deep inside of you. They were not left behind as a separate entity. They are with you right now. They are your very core. They are the foundation upon which you are built.

The children that pretended so easily wanted to be whatever it was at the time so very much that they flowed into the part as easily as they found breathing. If you wish to tell the child form of yourself anything at all, they are there to speak to. For those that have experienced so much pain in this life that you wish to say something discouraging or otherwise negative to them...try telling them something that they have never been told before. Tell them that you love them. Now prove it by being kind to them and doing everything you can to have them experience comfort and security. This is the only way to prevent anybody from hurting them again.

i'd tell myself i'm not a freak, like i believed, but that i have asperger and that only makes me smarter and special. i'd tell myself to go to college and get a decent career so i won't be stuck in those dead end jobs i am now, and it's too late to go to college now. in my age, they wouldn't accept me and i won't ask my parents for money. an eighteen year having her parents supporting her through college is one thing but in mid forties... no way.
i'd tell myself to learn krav maga. i've learned kickboxing and it's not as good and had to quit because of stomach aches.
not to buy a cat from a store because they often have horrible genetic diseases. snatch one off the streets. we have thousands of them around here and they leap on you from garbage cans. i didn't want to take a feral because she'll want to go out and i was too afraid to let a cat of mine out... long story...
go to the best vet there is and not just anyone. i've run into some idiots.
say no to people. don't always try to please others. don't pretend you like being around someone and that person is your friend out of politness. think of yourself first.

The only really huge thing I'd like to do is to go back to myself junior year in high school 6 years ago and tell myself to NOT go to nursing school...be a biochemist or veterinarian instead and do research of some kind; you will be more satisfied, enjoy college more and be far less stressed. You will still be able to help others if you seek it.

But really, I have no regrets; there is no point because time machines don't exist...just gotta get on gettin' on and make the best of it

I've thought about this for years. The only positive things I could have told myself when younger would have been
a) avoid the pasta and bread, it's bad for us
b) exercise more even if it sucks (like working on the farm)
c) try not to act like a dork (stop obscessing over Transformers) as much since there was at least 1 girl who could have been a temproary girl friend
d) ignore dad's order and fight back even if the bullies are smaller. Flattened them. Demolish them. Learn to fight too.
e) life will get better, but not that much better. Your health will take a turn for the worse around age 30. Be happy that you won't live forever.

I'd tell myself to not take antidepressants. I probably wouldn't have listened. Also, never stop exercising.

I'd say, "when people mistreat you or let you down, it's a reflection on them, not on you" and tell myself to keep repeating it until I believed it.

Hey, you've got this condition called Asperger, so you should watch out for this and this and that. Start using better your free time, join some extra-curricular activities, and learn how to stand up for yourself! Oh, and punch that bully in the face even if you fear disappointing your teachers, I'm sure that in the future you'll think it was worth it ^^