DOES ALL MALE WITH ASPERGER'S DESIRE SEX?

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Haha, as the sig says.

Me too! Except If it's been a dry spell I will be super soppy for a period.
Even in the comfort the desire for sex is still there somewhere, obviously.

I often find it weird that someone would want to have a romantic/loving relationship and not want sex. I mean, what's the point of being with someone of the opposite gender (or same gender, if you are gay) if you don't want to get intimate?

In other words -- you can live with a best friend now, sleep in the same bed even, and not have to deal with that kind of conflict. But most human beings, like all animals, crave more -- we have a mating instinct that is strong, hormonally driven (thus our gonads), and in fact crucial to us perpetuating at a species. Much of our behavior and family structure is centered around finding a mate, reproducing, and bringing that offspring safely to maturity.

And then for people who are asexual to cry out as if the rest of us are the weird ones, the perverts? I don't get it. Is this narcissism, just complete cluelessness about the human/mammalian/animal condition, or something else?

In other words, why would someone with sexual organs find sex weird or icky? Do you find seeing weird? Or hearing? What about touch, is that just weird? Smell? Etc.

Men in general desire sex, not just the ones with Asperger's. There are women that desire sex too and I'm not one of them. I don't see how everyone says sex is the greatest thing ever because it isn't. Personally, I was underwhelmed and bored throughout each time I tried having intercourse. Oh well. *shrug*

It's natural to desire sex. In many ways I desire it, but it is not a primary goal for me. There's more to relationships than getting laid, and I'd like it to come a lot later on in any relationship I entered into than most people probably would. For me, the loving, caring and friendship are far more important.

So for me, yes but no.

Why not stick to oral sex or fondling with someone who has been tested for STDs? Most people seem to forget this is even an option, and it drives me crazy. It's as if when you're not ready for the possibility of procreation, you shouldn't want any sexual involvement with another human being. For me, penetrative sex is very optional. Sexuality in general, however, which involves a MUCH greater range of activities, is something I VERY much want. I just had to point that out.

You sound, well, sexually "feminine" when you say this. For me, this is absolutely not true. I often feel that my sexual interest for many people takes the place of a desire for connection, that I primarily connect to people as bodies that can do interesting things and give off interesting energy (as well as fluids hehe). Heck, I even see my OWN body through that "lens" a lot of the time, even though I'm not attracted to guys, much less myself.

YOU ARE TEARING ME APART OP

Yes. Ever hear of "sensory defensiveness?" Hearing, smell, and touch are "weird."

As to the first, having sex is about as appealing as having a complete stranger stick their finger up my nose.

No thanks.

DO ALL BLACK PEOPLE BECOME GANGSTA*S`?!

omg what a stupid question this is.
Do you have to stereotype that much? = /

As an asexual I don't think that sexuals are weird. I know biologically and statistically being "sexual" is the normal thing. I also believe that for whatever reason some people are not sexual and that difference should be understood and respected.



You're right, it is weird. Intellectually, I know I SHOULD be interested in sex, but emotionally I'm just not. That's why I'm putting so much effort into trying to understand this aspect of myself.

Because not everyone thinks intimacy is synonymous with sex.
I find it weird someone would want to have a romantic/loving relationship and wanna hump and sweat on that person.
See what I did thar?

I don't want to hold hands with a best friend.
I don't want to kiss a best friend.
I don't want to cuddle with a best friend.
I don't want to buy a house with a best friend, or combine finances, or have children together, or get married, or grow old together.
Finding a mate- reproducing, and bringing offspring safely to maturity does not require two people to want to sweat on and hump one another.
More importantly, who gives a flying f*ck what "most of our behavior and family structure is centered around"? It's up to individuals to decide their own destinies, in accordance with their own desires and happiness.

There are individuals within most species who can be observed to display no sexual interest in either sex, just as others are homosexual or heterosexual or bisexual. Humans as animals are no different.
Sexual attraction is not sex drive, btw. My testosterone is too high, and guess what? I'm still asexual. I don't think there's a great threat to the species imminent.

A bit hypocritical, to call asexuals narcissists, and then in the next breath imply that those who do not form sexual attraction like you do are not human/mammalian/animals.
Even more hypocritical to call us "clueless" when given your previous comments about us, you TOTALLY do not understand what asexuality even means in a general sense.

Asexuality is not Sexual Aversion Disorder.
It is a lack of sexual attraction to either gender.
I'd imagine gay people find sex with the opposite sex "weird and icky", and vice versa for heteros with gay sex.
You obviously need to do a lot more research before opining.

Bethie always seem to get the males all hot and bothered over her.

I believe-- and this is pure conjecture-- that the further you are along the spectrum, the less you care about sex. But for those of us who do it can be a real problem...

I dunno, sometimes I think the ones who don't are better off...

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In one way or another.

Why not? She's hot.

You obviously need speak less, insult less, and think more -- but I see you are 22, so you are forgiven. Wait twelve more years, get a masters under your belt, and then dare to tell someone with more age and experience that -- idiot.

If you're happy with your asexuality/sexual aversion disorder/whatever excuse you want to make for not being a normal organism, go ahead. The fact is that you are either going to be bred out of the population, or if your gene really is intended for population control (meaning some are turned off of sex for the benefit of the population, e.g. you) -- great, more sex and intimacy for the animals who actually want to use our entire bodies. I don't really care myself if you are in that pool of people -- just stay out of the way.