Not wanting to hang with a girl if they bring their kid?

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Regardless of the demographics in your area, if your not into kids, and can't handle them, they aren't pets. It's not like dating a girl with a dog when you're not into dogs. It's a kid. If you have any ideas of having something serious. That's gonna eventually make you a sort of daddy. If you can't handle that, you shouldn't be doing that in my personal opinion.

Maybe you have to try something longer distance if you want something functional. You seem logical. Remove your personal desperation from this, and look at a simple thing. You= not good with kids, her = with kids = not good. Kids aren't pets to just be behaved and sit in the corner while you hang out with your girl. Sorry that's just not how it works when your chick has kids. So you need to learn to deal with kids better then if you think it's unavoidable. You should tell the chick you hang out with bring her kid more often. So you can get used to it and learn to deal with it if you think you're going to "have to".

I just also think of the fact that there is a kid here too that shouldn't be looked at as a total nuicance either.

It was more of being autistic and not having the greatest social skills I don't have great luck with meeting people, much less ones that will still have a thing to do with me once they know I'm autistic because thats what kinda judgemental world we live in sadly. Its either I take my chances with them, or just not do anything at all. But lately I'm starting to lean towards maybe its not so bad to just be single forever, because its all I've known practically.

And long distance, are you kidding me? Well first off as I mentioned with the girl in my post, I find out she had no problem doing things with me while I unknowingly at first had no idea she had a boy friend over seas in the navy. Really feel for the guy thinking he had a loving girl friend on the other side of the world who wasn't loyal to him and he never knew. I also was in a 2 year long distance relationship with someone myself many years ago that I never ended up meeting due to finding out she cheated on me and got pregnant with someone elses twins weeks before I was going to pay for her to fly over. Not saying cheating doesn't have to people that can date and touch in real life, but my 2 examples go to show that you never know what the person is doing on the other side of the computer screen or phone in these cases, and therefore I will NEVER trust someone again in a relationship like that.

Hey I feel for you man. I'm not trying to rail on you at all. I'm sorry if I came off like that man. It's just that, it's a big ass responsibility to seriously get involved with a girl with kids and you just need to realize that. I'm not judging you man.

There is long-er distance. Doesn't have to be on the other side of the country, but it can be a state over or something. IT don't have to be your particular town if they all have kids and you're not a kids kinda guy. That's all I'm saying.

Please don't misinterpret me though. I'm not trying to be a dick at all. Just honest perspective.

Even with he highest teen pregnancy rate in the US, there are surely some youngish women without kids. Date them if you're up for handling other people's kids.

I think it was rude of the mother to take her 1 year old there. But because it's a children's movie, she probably thought her daughter would sit through it. But at home if she can't even sit through a TV show or sit still while watching TV, why would someone expect them to do that at a movie theater? But you shouldn't even be taking kids on your date. When dating someone with kids, I would expect dates getting cancelled.

I share this feeling and not for bad reasons. I do not mind dating someone with a child but before I am introduced to them lets see if the mother and I have something real as I feel a child should only meet you then to save confusion for them.
I have said this to a potential date before and when explained has been seen as considerate not the opposite.
Maybe be clear at the start if they have children about your approach to this?

Also, an older person who has let go of their older kid to a reasonable degree. The ladt bf wanted to brung his *adult* daughter with us almost everywhere. I understand she would be around us or it would be him and her sonetimes, but damn! I was the bad guy bc i wanted to be alone with him.


Everyone said what i wanted to say. If she was going to bring child, she shouldve told you, barring last minute babysitter probs. Maybe she thought youd get the hint since yall were seeing a childrens movie... A year and a half is to young for long movies. Ive never seen a baby that young sit still for 90+ min! That being said, i dont agree with kids being around in the early stages of dating...

Just stay away from any single women with kids, zero attraction whatsoever taking care of someone else's kid. Never ever ever.