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Mikurotoro92
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Yesterday, 11:03 am

^the way I see it, sex is necessary if you want to create life but it's not necessary FOR life!! !



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Yesterday, 5:16 pm

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You're moving the goalposts, likely because you can't address what I actually said.

I specifically said essential for their well-being for a reason. I don't believe not getting laid will kill someone, but it sure seems to dramatically lower quality of life for some people.

That lowered quality of life likely contributes to some deaths of despair, but the cause of death wouldn't directly be listed as couldn't get any but it would also be silly to think that a coroner might explicitly list a lack of sex as a cause of death.

If you're going to give a smug response, at least direct it towards what was actually said.


The Venn Diagram for autistic women and sexual abuse/assault is basically a circle.

So for half of the autistic population, which is our community we're talking about here, 'having sex' dramatically lowers their quality of life.

Sex isn't essential. It's that simple. And sex just to have sex isn't all that great, and can leave you with medical issues.

Why is it 'smug' to point that out, but not smug to belittle someone for pointing that out?

The reality is, men desperate to have sex are scary, and there is pushback in this thread because what some of us are seeing is exactly the type of "I need to get mine" that we have seen is really dangerous out in the world.

No one owes you sex. It is not essential for life. If you would like to be sexually active, pay a professional or figure out how to be someone that attracts people to you. Insisting that other people choosing not to have sex with you lowers your quality of life is not a good look.


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Today, 1:03 am

ChicagoLiz wrote:
The Venn Diagram for autistic women and sexual abuse/assault is basically a circle.

So for half of the autistic population, which is our community we're talking about here, 'having sex' dramatically lowers their quality of life.


I don't think anyone would disagree that being sexually abused lowers one's quality of life, but that doesn't refute the claim I've made.

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Sex isn't essential. It's that simple.


Source: Trust me bro.

ChicagoLiz wrote:
No one owes you sex.


Please point out where I've ever suggested that were the case.

You can go beyond this thread and use my entire posting history to find an example if you'd like.

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ChicagoLiz wrote:
If you would like to be sexually active, pay a professional or figure out how to be someone that attracts people to you


Have I ever in my posting history complained about not being able to find partners, or otherwise find sexual fulfillment? Since I haven't this argument is little more than a strawman and a sad attempt at insulting me.

I'd also question if oh just pay for it isn't just opening another whole can of worms, given that you can't remove some element of coercion given that people who are dependent upon sex work to pay their bills are facing that coercive pressure at the very least.

ChicagoLiz wrote:
Insisting that other people choosing not to have sex with you lowers your quality of life is not a good look.


If only that were something I had claimed, ever.

You're much better at being insulting than actually addressing what I've actually said, and you're at best a 2/5 when it comes to attempted roasting.


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Today, 1:04 am

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Very often people on the AS struggle either with having sexual urges they can't satisfy, or having traumatic sexual experiences as a result of their efforts to satisfy those urges. OTOH a significant portion of the community is asexual, and sometimes they give the appearance of thinking that being ace is part and parcel of being autistic, and don't show any sympathy for others who might truly be suffering or in fact at serious risk. I wish we could have a civilized conversation about this.


Agreed.


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Today, 4:29 am

Regarding the OP, appearing younger, if that's indeed the case, could definitely be an advantage, all other things being equal. This would be true if we assume that women are stricter about the higher end of their "age range". So a 32 year old woman might be open to dating a 21 year old man but think a 43.year old man is too old for her.


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Today, 8:46 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
ChicagoLiz wrote:
It seems that younger generations are starting to figure out that the extreme hype about sex that has permeated our media for a few decades now has been a mistake, and they're choosing to enjoy their lives without concentrating on "oh, I must have sex" all the time. This is more normal for humans over the last tens of thousands of years.

No, sex is not required for life, not like oxygen, water, food, or protection from the elements. It's nice, but so is a hot bath or a good run....optional rather than necessary. Feeling cared for and supported is so much more important, and has absolutely nothing to do with sex most of the time.


Exactly!! !

This might even directly correlate with our current decline in marriage and birth rates!


HOWEVER, this is a "chicken or the egg" type scenario

Did the decline of marriage and children rates lead to decline in sex or is it the other way around (decline of sex led to decline in marriage and children rates)?

Hmm...