Living with parents kind of puts the kibosh on dating?

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This has nothing to do with that, sly. It’s more of an ageist generational bashing thread started by someone who walked uphill, both ways, barefoot in the snow to go to school & then was able to buy a home for less than 3x annual income and wonders why Millenials earning $35k can’t just go be independent in an economy where the average 1 bedroom apartment rents for $2100/month.

Seriously, it’s as if they completely forgot to teach math, finance, and economics to the older generation in those moving schoolhouses.

Also, it's a bit weird that this ageist thread is allowed to go on here considering what typically gets locked. I guess there’s a double standard here that allows old women to speak ill of hard working young people. *shrug* I dunno, I don’t have time to inquire, I’m 35 and have to go to my Sunday morning job now in order to make ends meet.

He said I overreacted. I told him I did what I had to do. Because it's extremely important to nip any and all threats right when they start; otherwise, they will escalate. It's perfectly illustrated in the poem "Hangman" by Maurice Ogden.

The daughter will just grow her hair really long, so the prince/suitor can climb on it into her tower. At least until he (her father) gives her a military buzz cut. Because he cares, of course.

Unless he was dead serious about hitting you with it I guess someone should have let the cops know about your little hooker habit too.

I'd say he was serious. He put the brass knuckles on his hand, waved then in front of my face, and said: "You know what I can do to your face with this, right?" Not only that, he did some bullying before, which I unsuccessfully tried to deflect. The brass knuckles incident was simply the last straw.

Oh, that was shortly after I kicked the habit and closed my escort blog account. I mentioned multiples times before that sex disgusts me now.

I believe dating is how teenagers learn to socialize, and to learn the lessons of romance.

I don’t believe in restricting socialization. I believe in making sure I know who my kids hang out with, though.

To restrict socialization promotes the formation of myths. It also restricts kids from learning about the “real world,” and from learning the inevitable lessons of adolescence.

I would agree about taking away the car should the kid flunk.

I wish I'd been allowed to do that.



If only it were that easy! But there'll be no prince or suitor, because he'll never know that she exists.

Now that hookers have been brought up, who knows, some of the ones you patronized might well have been fleeing this fate.

Did you report the thread? I did. And i think every one who thinks this thread is generational bashing should do so too.

I’ve let it be known that I’ve never reported a single post and will not do so. I’m not a rat, but I will call people out on their posts/threads like I did here.

The Report button is for humans too, you know.

Taking the car away is an "easy" punishment (read: easy for parents to inflict) in rural areas and most suburbs. But in major cities, it's nothing. Without a car, the punished kid can just take buses and trains. (No Uber for minors.) Granted, if the punished kid is a guy, he can't date without a car. But girls don't like aspie guys anyway, so the punishment is neither here nor there.

Maybe, but not at the time I've been with them. Most escorts I sexed were over 25; the youngest (and best) one was 20. By that age, they've long since escaped overprotective parenting, I'm sure.

I have a different attitude towards boys. Women have more at stake if they’re promiscuous and it falls on her parents to deal with it. Back in the early to mid 20th century, upscale girls would “move up North to take care of her aunt” for a year. Or they’d mysteriously disappear for a while and when they came back, it was like nothing ever happened.

And nobody ever talked about it, either.

Not so now. When I was in high school, there was the occasional girl who “disappeared.” And when you asked what happened to her and why she hasn’t been back in a month, people would look at you like you’ve lost your mind. Total 1984 stuff, like that person never even existed.

Now that I’m on the “other side of the desk” in a private school people just giggle about it but at least they’ll say something.

Anyway...I mean, she’s the one that will get kicked out of school. I know she can have a better life than that, so, yeah...I’ll do what it takes.

Yeah, I’d punish my boys in college by taking the car away, etc. I’m not going to support behavior I don’t believe in.

But the difference in how I’d react to my daughter dating versus my boys dating has everything do with the consequences of bad behavior and potential for it. Just like I would without hesitation press charges if some boy grabbed her and drove away, I would expect no less of other parents in how they protect their own daughters. So if my boys are misbehaving, let someone else’s mother deal with it. If he gets her pregnant or he ends up in jail, I’ve got nothing. I’m not floating him cash to make support payments, I’m not helping with the usual wedding stuff if they go that route. My son will have to figure this out exactly the same way I did when I got a woman pregnant: entirely on his own.

That’s really all I can say about it. The thing is, we’re only assuming the absolute worst. Most people end up just fine no matter what you do, and a few end up serial killers or perverts regardless of whether you’re strict or hands-off. We only do our best based on what we know and what we believe.

Only if the parenting wasn't overprotective enough. If they were kept intentionally ignorant and helpless, so they'd only leave their parents' home via a marriage their fathers approved of, it's entirely possible for them to reach those or even later ages without breaking free. Even marriage could be simply a continuation of the overprotective parenting, since they'd be completely at the mercy of their husbands.

From what I’ve seen they say it’s not ok for men to live at home but fine for women, so it certainly seems directed at the lonely aspie men who live with family and who struggle to find gf and wanting them to stop complaining since it’s their fault for living with family.

Also a lot of women my age and younger have the same mindset so it’s more sexist then ageist.

Hey sly, I thought you had someone you were dating now. So you can't play the "lonely loser aspie guy" card any more. Or did it end badly, putting you back in the same situation?

Don't worry, you can do what Aspie1 does and sex some hookers. (Hint: if they have an outtie they're male, and if they have an innie, they're female.)

Wow. Now this was certainly an attack on sexless men, sly. Bea, why so rude and heartless?

IKR?!?!

WOW, Bea!