Quite nice and pleasant people to get to know, and if you ever meet one, don't let the opportunity pass.
Be it her friend, or possibly relationship partner, getting to know them feels amazing.
Just like meeting a fellow aspie male, you get that 'Finally, someone who knows how I feel!' feeling you've never known, and it feels good.
They tend to be more understanding of our struggles than N.T. women and their unique and unconventional views on the world are wonderful.
It is an unhealthy attitude to hold towards them - idolizing them and putting them on a pedestal, but sometimes it is difficult to avoid.
I know I've had Oneitis (strong obsession and belief 'she's so unique and different' 'I'll never meet anyone like her again' 'she actually likes me for me. She must be 'the one'. No one else has made me feel this way, and no one else ever can make me feel this way again', etc.) for all the aspie females I've crushed on and pursued or just the one's with aspie-like traits, and although they did have some similarities, they were all unique and different in their own right, and I since haven't met anyone like them again.
The truth is, they actually ARE rare.
Statistically, autistic or aspergers suffering males are rare enough, let alone females.
I see a lot of advice on the internet that says stuff like "Stop thinking shes the only woman you could ever love, stop idolizing her thinking she's 'perfect' and exactly what you've been waiting for. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and for every woman that rejects you, there's still plenty more out there."
But this is somewhat of a lie for aspie females.
They might be as different as night and day, just as N.T's are, but some of them truly are quite unconventional and 'different', if those words even have meaning in the world as apparently everyone is equally 'unique' and 'different' even though they are many things universally known/popular and many things only a small minority enjoy, know about or think about.
There are common ways people of your society or culture see the world, just as there truly IS free-thinkers and those that think a bit differently from the rest.
To deny such an assertion is also delusion, in my humble opinion.
It is arrogant to believe you are a 'free-thinker' and better than the 'sheep' and such, but perfectly reasonable to accept some of your views may be unpopular or obscure, but that doesn't necessarily make 'them' 'blind' and you 'free' and 'liberated'.
It's like being gay.
Gay people are only a very small minority of the population, and you would be deluding yourself if you were gay and believed you have just as much chance and opportunity as a heterosexual person.
I don't think if you were gay you should date or try to get to know every other gay person you come across.
Even if other gay people are rare, you still must have standards, but perhaps your expecations are just a little lower than a straight persons might be, because you'd be aware that having extremely high standards is hard enough for a heterosexual person, let alone a homosexual one.
So when that aspie female comes along, being about the 1% of women, perhaps you should think about getting to know her better.
You just might meet someone special who has views of the world you have never known, and could one day have a very special friend, or your lifelong marriage partner.
Do your best not to idolize them or place them on an unrealistic pedestal they can't live up to, keep your standards the same yet stay reasonable, and carpe diem (seize the day).
Of the minority of women that are aspie females and possible aspies I've met, there truly is something 'different' about them indeed.
05 May 2016, 7:01 am
