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Eric_C
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01 Sep 2006, 5:31 pm

Try to talk about something of her interest or play some music that she enjoys. Tell her how much you care about her. Try or talk about something that will make her forget about the subject. I think that may help.


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02 Sep 2006, 9:23 am

As stated above, I am a detached aspie female. I know from experience that you have to be careful that you aren't just showing "empathy" toward your girlfriend in order to "get sex" because she'll probably see through that one in a millisecond.

If you really care for her then you should understand that it is probably taking all her energy to get through her struggle at work, and what she needs is someone to listen, to care, and show empathy without asking for anything in return. If you have any alterior motives for showing empathy toward her at this time then any display of empathy might be perceived by her as manipulative and could harm your relationship.



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27 Oct 2017, 10:25 am

cbenne7193 wrote:
We have only been dating for 6 months and the first 5 months were great but she changed jobs and this new job is taking all of her attention. She says she is under stress and hasn't wanted to see me much and we haven't had sex in over a month but we talk to each other every night. I do love her but is there anything that can be done to calm her down and make her more affectionate?


from one aspie to another,i wish you the best