What percentage of Aspie women get married?

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18 May 2012, 4:45 pm

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

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18 May 2012, 5:39 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

there's not much evidence of that

I think that "AS women more likely to go under the radar" is a bs theory.

here (my old username, i had a poorer english back then) :

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt106618.html

and here, oh, i like that girl, she thinks just like me, LOGICAL:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt154688.html

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18 May 2012, 5:44 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

there's not much evidence of that

I think that "AS women more likely to go under the radar" is a bs theory.

I disagree, what i do think is that "social standards" make it so its a bit harder for men to learn to naturally cope with a level of AS/HFA. They do make it a bit easier for women to cope or hide it.

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18 May 2012, 5:52 pm

MXH wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

there's not much evidence of that

I think that "AS women more likely to go under the radar" is a bs theory.

read the two threads above, i am not willing to argue this all over again......

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18 May 2012, 7:08 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

there's not much evidence of that

I think that "AS women more likely to go under the radar" is a bs theory.

It's not a "theory" at all.
The diagnostic criteria were developed studying only males.
The average age-of-diagnosis for females is consistently longer than males, sometimes estimated to be measured in DECADES.

That women are under-diagnosed really isn't a debated fact, in clinical practice, in research, and in support services.

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18 May 2012, 7:10 pm

MXH wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

there's not much evidence of that

I think that "AS women more likely to go under the radar" is a bs theory.

I don't agree at all- if anything, the pressure on women to be more sociable makes them more easy to spot when they're unable to cope.

But that doesn't lend itself to diagnosis.

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18 May 2012, 9:34 pm

I know I want marriage. Probably never going to happen, but it'd be nice.

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19 May 2012, 1:25 am

I'm married to a wonderful man who accepts everything about me and loves me for who I am. I had two bad previous relationships and I got away from them both.

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19 May 2012, 9:30 am

ValentineWiggin wrote:

MXH wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

there's not much evidence of that

I think that "AS women more likely to go under the radar" is a bs theory.

I don't agree at all- if anything, the pressure on women to be more sociable makes them more easy to spot when they're unable to cope.

But that doesn't lend itself to diagnosis.

When I was a child in the late 60's/early 70's, it was considered *desirable* to be quiet and "no trouble". They loved the fact that I liked books and it didn't bother them that I didn't speak until I was 3 and had no friends (or any know-how to make any). I was just considered "strange" and "weird" as I got older, and every time I tried to get help for myself I was told I was overreacting and that everyone gets bullied and ignored and made fun of.

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19 May 2012, 2:58 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

I agree I didn't get my diagnosis until my twenties until after a series of unfortunate events which took a great mental toll.

I think that as I was seen as being bright and any problems I had were just part of the normal teenage phase or something. I had straight As through high school if I was anxious or worried I was just told I was a drama queen. Having a prolonged missed diagnosis of aspergers and ADD made me ill and at times feel suicidal.

Certainly doctors and the like need to be more aware of Aspergers...

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19 May 2012, 3:02 pm

I don't know what percentage of Aspie women get married, and I don't know if it's ever been researched. I am married myself. I do think it's more likely for women on the spectrum to get married than for men, because women tend to be less obviously odd. For other chronic health conditions (physical and mental), the reverse is true.

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19 May 2012, 4:05 pm

Women get used by jerks, the men are not expected to be such idiots and are left alone.

That's basically it.

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19 May 2012, 4:48 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

there's not much evidence of that

I think that "AS women more likely to go under the radar" is a bs theory.

WHERE is the evidence?? From where you are bringing this info?

Sources!!

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19 May 2012, 5:13 pm

I don't think an actual percentage has been calculated, but there are so many factors in how people with AS get relationships.

Both male and female Aspies have to do some amount of work to gain a relationship. And these threads seem to assume that people will just go out with the first person who shows them any sort of attention (in other words, the differences between gaining a partner and maintaining the relationship once it's established). They also imply that female Aspies just have to "sit back and look pretty"--total bullcrap. And it doesn't say anything about the partner's motives (actual relationship vs. ulterior motives).

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20 May 2012, 9:13 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

I think there's a crisis-level underdiagnosis of women with Asperger's and HFA, let alone any research on their marriage rates.

there's not much evidence of that

I think that "AS women more likely to go under the radar" is a bs theory.

WHERE is the evidence?? From where you are bringing this info?

Sources!!

Hrm....

For starters: http://www.dnaindia.com/scitech/report_ ... rs_1344150

Of course, that might actually mean autistic women experience difficultly in their lives, and the notion that women in general could possibly have problems that can't be solved by sitting around and looking pretty isn't well-received on this board.

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20 May 2012, 7:43 pm

^this

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