What if I don't date in college?

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14 Sep 2012, 8:14 pm

atdevel wrote:

I might have asked this before. Maybe the world doesn't owe me a girlfriend but everyone's going to talk about all the girls they dated in college and all I will be able to say is that I studied and had no social life. I even tried going out and drinking, but couldn't stand the hangovers that followed.

I mean what will a girl think if she finds out I had no social life in college? I only have 1.5 years left, so I need to act quick!

Bang escorts and develop a good rapport with one you like who is your own age. Never drop the "L-Bomb". She can serve as social proof quite nicely at events where you need to "be with someone".

Learn to be happy on your own and develop a skill set that allows you to support yourself. You are the only person you can truly rely on.

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17 Sep 2012, 9:07 pm

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I hate, despise, loathe how we guys always have to make the first move, do the approaching, initiating, asking out, plus, a lot of guys will date an insecure girl but most girls will not date an insecure guy, not fair

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18 Sep 2012, 10:22 am

Well, if you don't date during college, you'll probably have a lot more freedom in terms of pursuing personal growth on your own terms and expanding your horizons, than if you were in a relationship. I got engaged during my sophmore year of college and lived off campus all four years I was in school, so, as a result, I think I completely missed out on the whole 'college experience' and 'sowing your wild oats' thing.

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18 Sep 2012, 3:32 pm

i want to experience dating and relationships in my prime years, prime years are teens and 20's

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18 Sep 2012, 3:35 pm

if you dont get to date or do other things with women in college nothing different happens. You can either cry till you drown, do something about it (no real guarantee it will work), or move on

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18 Sep 2012, 6:14 pm

everything just comes to women, but men have to go after it unfortuneately

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18 Sep 2012, 6:30 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:

everything just comes to women, but men have to go after it unfortuneately

ah yes. but sifting through rubble for diamonds (even if in the rough) is no easy task either.
Now if you're just looking for rocks to smash then yea tons easier.

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18 Sep 2012, 6:32 pm

MXH wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

everything just comes to women, but men have to go after it unfortuneately

ah yes. but sifting through rubble for diamonds (even if in the rough) is no easy task either.
Now if you're just looking for rocks to smash then yea tons easier.

just because men do the pursuing, chasing does not mean they have literally control over their options, choices, the woman has the final say

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18 Sep 2012, 6:47 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:

MXH wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

everything just comes to women, but men have to go after it unfortuneately

ah yes. but sifting through rubble for diamonds (even if in the rough) is no easy task either.
Now if you're just looking for rocks to smash then yea tons easier.

just because men do the pursuing, chasing does not mean they have literally control over their options, choices, the woman has the final say

she has control over the final step, but you have control to ignore her from the start.

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18 Sep 2012, 7:10 pm

MXH wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

MXH wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

everything just comes to women, but men have to go after it unfortuneately

ah yes. but sifting through rubble for diamonds (even if in the rough) is no easy task either.
Now if you're just looking for rocks to smash then yea tons easier.

just because men do the pursuing, chasing does not mean they have literally control over their options, choices, the woman has the final say

she has control over the final step, but you have control to ignore her from the start.

yes we do have control to ignore her from the start but the whole goal, objective when approaching, pursuing, chasing somebody is to "land a relationship" with them, and women have that fate in their hands since the guy is the one that has to build, create attraction with his "game"

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18 Sep 2012, 10:33 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:

MXH wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

MXH wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

everything just comes to women, but men have to go after it unfortuneately

ah yes. but sifting through rubble for diamonds (even if in the rough) is no easy task either.
Now if you're just looking for rocks to smash then yea tons easier.

just because men do the pursuing, chasing does not mean they have literally control over their options, choices, the woman has the final say

she has control over the final step, but you have control to ignore her from the start.

In the end, the choice is mutual. Remember, there's as many women out there as there are men(actually, slightly more), so know that for every single guy there's a single gal out there as well. Women generally don't like to be single either so they only have that power if you give it to them. Don't look at it as trying to find a girl who is willing to date you, look at it as trying to make a girl want to date you. Improve your physical appearance(I have no clue what you look like, but it can definitely help), take up hobbies where you might have common ground with a girl, and have an attitude that's focused less on finding a relationship and more on meeting people and having fun. This can be tough for us aspies, so it helps to get into some hobby we're interested in as a way to break the ice.

I'm not suggesting not to approach women, but making yourself look like a good catch will boost your own self confidence and make it a LOT easier to meet a girl who wants to date you. The other reason why I suggested this is that you might make friends with girls. Why is this important? They can set you up with one of their friends, and I'm sure you'll agree this sounds a lot better than approaching a stranger.

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18 Sep 2012, 10:37 pm

Kaufmancab51 wrote:

if only student activity groups did speed dating sessions...

They might do that one day. since people are interested in others depending on sexuality.

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19 Sep 2012, 3:05 pm

civrev wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

MXH wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

MXH wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

everything just comes to women, but men have to go after it unfortuneately

ah yes. but sifting through rubble for diamonds (even if in the rough) is no easy task either.
Now if you're just looking for rocks to smash then yea tons easier.

just because men do the pursuing, chasing does not mean they have literally control over their options, choices, the woman has the final say

she has control over the final step, but you have control to ignore her from the start.

i hate how people always use the argument as to which gender has it easier when attracting someone of the oppossite sex, they always say "for every girl that has a boyfriend that guy has a girlfriend", yes i know that is true but the guy had to do all or most of the work in order to make it happen, the girl just had to approve of it

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21 Sep 2012, 5:58 pm

You sound like you just want to whine about your current situation and not do anything about it.

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24 Sep 2012, 3:18 pm

RICKY5 wrote:

You sound like you just want to whine about your current situation and not do anything about it.

more like venting my anger, frustration

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24 Sep 2012, 3:22 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:

RICKY5 wrote:

You sound like you just want to whine about your current situation and not do anything about it.

more like venting my anger, frustration

thats what the haven is for. This forum is for talking about making a situation better and discussing things. Not ranting

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