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16 Apr 2014, 8:04 pm

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He already knows I like him. Are you suggesting that I directly say " I want to be your girlfriend' ? .


You could do that, but the step-by-step process that I outlined has worked better on me. Words are confusing, but boobies are magic. If he doesn't like touching, then IDK, because I like touching a lot, even though it takes me a while to get used to it if I don't see it coming. If a girl started talking about being my girlfriend before we'd even kissed, I would just get confused and probably not say anything right.


I see. The gradually touching idea makes some sense, but pressing my boobs against him sounds a bit iffy.


Stay in your comfort zone and don't use your magic powers if you don't want to. Maybe the kids do it differently nowadays, but that was all the rage when I was a little younger.



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17 Apr 2014, 4:12 am

"Do you want me to be your gf?"



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17 Apr 2014, 4:51 pm

Is it too soon to ask about where he and I stand, after only two dates?

Also, how many dates , on average,does it take a guy to know he wants a relationship with the other person?



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17 Apr 2014, 5:37 pm

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Is it too soon to ask about where he and I stand, after only two dates?

Also, how many dates , on average,does it take a guy to know he wants a relationship with the other person?


Yes, I think it's too soon. I don't know the average number of dates you have to go on to figure that out. But if the guy is an aspie maybe it's not a good idea to press too soon.

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You could do that, but the step-by-step process that I outlined has worked better on me. Words are confusing, but boobies are magic. If he doesn't like touching, then IDK, because I like touching a lot, even though it takes me a while to get used to it if I don't see it coming. If a girl started talking about being my girlfriend before we'd even kissed, I would just get confused and probably not say anything right.


I see. The gradually touching idea makes some sense, but pressing my boobs against him sounds a bit iffy.


Stay in your comfort zone and don't use your magic powers if you don't want to. Maybe the kids do it differently nowadays, but that was all the rage when I was a little younger.


This is hilarious! I had no idea boobies had such magic powers. So that's all it takes for a woman to make you her boyfriend? By pressing her breasts against you?



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17 Apr 2014, 5:41 pm

Thank you for the advice, Yuzu.



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17 Apr 2014, 5:43 pm

I should get boob implants.



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17 Apr 2014, 5:44 pm

^^ You'd get a boyfriend in no time.



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17 Apr 2014, 6:00 pm

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17 Apr 2014, 6:12 pm

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This is hilarious! I had no idea boobies had such magic powers. So that's all it takes for a woman to make you her boyfriend? By pressing her breasts against you?


Boobies have magic powers. To your absurd questions, no, but if I like a woman, and we're alone together, and she presses her boobs up against me, it does indicate in no uncertain terms that she wants to get closer. It also makes responding perfectly straightforward, and by that I mean a kiss.

It was intended to be hilarious, in a way. Having a serious discussion about the nature of a relationship needs to happen early, but definitely after people agree that they want to be in a relationship of the romantic kind.



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17 Apr 2014, 7:09 pm

jrjones9933 wrote:
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This is hilarious! I had no idea boobies had such magic powers. So that's all it takes for a woman to make you her boyfriend? By pressing her breasts against you?


Boobies have magic powers. To your absurd questions, no, but if I like a woman, and we're alone together, and she presses her boobs up against me, it does indicate in no uncertain terms that she wants to get closer. It also makes responding perfectly straightforward, and by that I mean a kiss.

It was intended to be hilarious, in a way. Having a serious discussion about the nature of a relationship needs to happen early, but definitely after people agree that they want to be in a relationship of the romantic kind.


I was not laughing at you. I liked it because you were being so nonchalant and unpretentious about it.
I thought it was funny because in the other thread "Why males take the responsibility for initiating", people are getting into a heated discussion about what men and women put priorities on in a relationship and here you are telling the OP "just press your breasts against him, he'll get the message."
You even said you don't want a girl to talk about being your girlfriend before you've even kissed. Love your honesty. Really.



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17 Apr 2014, 7:13 pm

Gradual touching and see if he responds positively, like touch his hand or sit very close to him. Go on a date where you sit close to each other like a movie or something. If you already went on two dates, he is probably interested.



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17 Apr 2014, 7:22 pm

Yuzu wrote:
I was not laughing at you. I liked it because you were being so nonchalant and unpretentious about it.
I thought it was funny because in the other thread "Why males take the responsibility for initiating", people are getting into a heated discussion about what men and women put priorities on in a relationship and here you are telling the OP "just press your breasts against him, he'll get the message."
You even said you don't want a girl to talk about being your girlfriend before you've even kissed. Love your honesty. Really.


I totally took it as you mocking me, so thanks for clearing it up. I've been on edge lately, so I need to exercise more caution about that kind of thing.