do many people here have a aspie/aspie relationship?

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There's like no aspie girls around in my area and the ones I do know, they're not compatible. One is too old, the other is too low-functioning, and the third isn't even into guys.


I mean if I only go for aspie girls, that would limit my options by quite a lot. That's like me only going for black redheads. Even if I do find one, her chances of even liking me back and willing to date me is a long shot.

I've never been with an aspie before although each of my ex's had some mental illness ranging from bipolar to schizophrenia to multiple personality disorder to substance abuse (meth is a filthy thing). I don't know how well I would do with an aspie, it would be an interesting experience to say the least.

Diagnosed aspie in a relationship with a quirky NT girl here.

I'm fairly certain my husband and I are both Aspies. The relationship was harder in the beginning than it is now that we have learned one another's strengths and weaknesses. It's a balancing act but I know for a fact I couldn't have made a marriage work with a NT man.

my bf is asd and he's wonderful

Yes. First and foremost, a major difference is honesty. NT's lie way more, she does not lie. Communication can become a lot clearer than with NT's because it's to the point, but can be muddled if one of you is employing sarcasm and the other isn't getting it, or vice versa. Special interests, while different are also a big point and if you two can hear eachother out on your interests and let the other go on their tangents, and they let you go on yours, that can be a very nice thing. Misunderstandings can occur and aspergers can worsen them so I'd say it's best to try to communicate as clearly and honestly as possible, I even find that being highly blunt is better than beating around the bush in my particular relationship. Also, we both kind of know what makes the other tick as far as our aspergers goes and can kind of avoid it, or calm the other down when they are in a bad mood. It's certainly different. The thing about NT's for me is they seem much more fleeting and only interested in having fun and cutting out, but she seems to be more in it because she enjoys my company and I enjoy her, there's definitely a comfort to it.

My current GF is NT and she is awesome!

Her birthday is in two weeks and I want to take her somewhere she will like. However, a problem that bothers me is of my mom finding out and doing something bad.

I've been seeing a guy who seems Aspie-ish sometimes, but I doubt it. Eccentric and prone to fidgeting in a way that doesn't seem like boredom. We're both weird so it works

I am in a relationship with another aspie and have been with her for nearly 4 years now and the relationships I had before I had nothing in common and not really compatible. She has a great sense of humour and is so loving being with her is so much better than being with those on the NT spectrum since I have been betrayed by people on the neurotypical spectrum. My girlfriend is just right for me likely because we both have Asperger syndrome which can make it easier to work on communication where as with an NT type they expect you to do all the communicating work. Also you do get the honesty and trust with an aspie that you don't with someone on the NT spectrum

The only woman I've ever been attracted to on more than just a physical level is almost certainly an aspie, though she's never told me so. At any rate, I object to sex/love on philosophical grounds, so that it could never be.

Single currently but my last boyfriend was an Aspie and bipolar. I had certainly felt more connected to him than the NT's I'd had relationships with, despite some strong differences between us. We also had some things that were extremely alike, which was good but at times wasn't very productive for the relationship.

It might have the Aspie aspect that had created the connection and comfort, I'm not really sure since I have insufficient relationship experience to draw a sound conclusion.

In an Aspie/Aspie relationship, to just be me as i am, and to know that my SO gets it without explanation and thats his experience too, is priceless.

We are taking things slowly and this has allowed both of us to adjust and adapt to each other without undue stress. I think our experience of autism is similar, noise sensitivity in particular and then variations in the other areas, its been a massive stress reducer.

The challenges occur around emotions and communication, both of us are relatively self aware in this area and practical minded so it helps.

Also we arent doing a conventional relationship, its long distance for the long term, this gives both of us space to meet our own aspie needs too.