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angela8
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30 Jan 2018, 11:20 am

There is a huge age difference, too ashamed to say. I don't expect anything, but was hoping for a similar feeling. I'm a dope. The crush does eat away at me. He is adorable, cranky, brilliant and kind. I want to hold him and kiss him, but he doesn't like much physical contact. It's quite frustrating. I am a mothering type, so I guess a crazy crush like this was bound to happen sometime.


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30 Jan 2018, 11:21 am

When I was in my teens, I wanted to do all those things to a woman in her 40's LOL

I know the feeling well. There was just SOMETHING about older women.....

The prevailing thought in my mind: this guy is missing out on something special!

I never thought I was "perverted" in any way for having these feelings.



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30 Jan 2018, 11:27 am

For you, however, I would suggest backing off. I don’t think this relationship is good for you.[/quote]

I agree. I'm trying to get over the crush because he is annoying me, and I'm starting to really dislike him because of being unwanted. It's plain depressing.


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30 Jan 2018, 11:36 am

The bummer is: I'm not inclined to believe that he totally "doesn't want you." This feeling is based upon the possessiveness you mentioned.

I sense there are other barriers---some of them imposed by our society, others imposed by himself.

If he does happen to 'turn around," and start wanting to "be with you," how would you feel?

Please note that I'm not seeking to "raise your hopes," though I wish I could. I always wish for the consummation of crushes.



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30 Jan 2018, 12:44 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
The bummer is: I'm not inclined to believe that he totally "doesn't want you." This feeling is based upon the possessiveness you mentioned.

I sense there are other barriers---some of them imposed by our society, others imposed by himself.

If he does happen to 'turn around," and start wanting to "be with you," how would you feel?

Please note that I'm not seeking to "raise your hopes," though I wish I could. I always wish for the consummation of crushes.


Well, I certainly would say yes if he wanted to be more than friends. As we older people say, I'd want to "rock his world." I'm bad. Lol Thanks for the nice sentiment. :D


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30 Jan 2018, 12:45 pm

LOL....I wish that happened for me.

But such is life :P



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30 Jan 2018, 12:53 pm

Just call me Mrs. Robinson. :lol: Life often seems to give us the opposite of what we want.


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30 Jan 2018, 12:54 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
When I was in my teens, I wanted to do all those things to a woman in her 40's LOL

I know the feeling well. There was just SOMETHING about older women.....

The prevailing thought in my mind: this guy is missing out on something special!

I never thought I was "perverted" in any way for having these feelings.


When I was in high school when I was the freshman I wanted the junior.



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30 Jan 2018, 12:56 pm

I dated a freshman when I was a sophomore. Got an early start at this, I guess. :wink:


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30 Jan 2018, 1:06 pm

You're nothing like Mrs. Robinson. She was a b***h with a capital "B."

She was supposedly 38 in "The Graduate." Quite frankly, she looked much older than 38. More like 58. She smoked and drank. And she had no virtues, really, except her "seductiveness" (which wasn't very seductive to me).

That lady had problems galore!



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30 Jan 2018, 1:22 pm

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You're nothing like Mrs. Robinson. She was a b***h with a capital "B."

She was supposedly 38 in "The Graduate." Quite frankly, she looked much older than 38. More like 58. She smoked and drank. And she had no virtues, really, except her "seductiveness" (which wasn't very seductive to me).

That lady had problems galore!

I'm just speaking about the age difference. Thanks. My problem is that I'm too nice, also a turn off to men. Men like a challenge.


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30 Jan 2018, 1:48 pm

I think you are valued, but not in the way you would like. It would be nice to remain friends with him but for your own sanity I wouldn’t recommend it. Maybe in future you can reconnect when you get over the crush.



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30 Jan 2018, 2:07 pm

I happen to like nice women who don’t challenge me for challenge’s sake—but who do have fertile minds.



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30 Jan 2018, 2:09 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I happen to like nice women who don’t challenge me for challenge’s sake—but who do have fertile minds.


Well, I think saying someone you’re planning to date is a serial killer deserves to be challenged, as it would potentially produce a positive result: Her fully understanding what his problem is.



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30 Jan 2018, 2:11 pm

angela8 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
You're nothing like Mrs. Robinson. She was a b***h with a capital "B."

She was supposedly 38 in "The Graduate." Quite frankly, she looked much older than 38. More like 58. She smoked and drank. And she had no virtues, really, except her "seductiveness" (which wasn't very seductive to me).

That lady had problems galore!

I'm just speaking about the age difference. Thanks. My problem is that I'm too nice, also a turn off to men. Men like a challenge.


Being nice is not a turn off to men. You sound like a wonderful catch for the right man.

The only thing is people who seem too nice just need to be careful others don’t take advantage of them, which is a shame, as you don’t deserve it.



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30 Jan 2018, 2:38 pm

If a Mrs. Robinson type tried to seduce me, I'd probably throw her through the window LOL